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Relationship Advice 10w
guys help theres this girl and she’s literally everything i could’ve hoped for, but a while ago we talked abt how we’re both not rly ready for a relationship and i thought that would mean we’d still talk but casual for a bit and instead we’ve just (1/idk)
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Anonymous 10w

we’ve just kinda been acting like a couple and not addressing what that means? and it’s what i wanted us to have someday so i don’t want to take a step back but also i feel like we both could’ve benefited from a little more distance for a while and i don’t know what to do. i’m happy as it is, but i REALLY like her and i don’t want to fuck this up by launching into it before i’m healed from the last bs i went through. what do i do? (2/2)

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Anonymous 10w

kinda hard to have a healthy relationship if one or both of you doesnt know what you want. situationships tend to not go well in my experience so personally my only recommendation is that if you really think its worth staying you need to really be prepared for things to end.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

you two probably need to communicate more about this also

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

why is it you think you both could benefit from distance if youre happy?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

we’ve both got some kinds fresh wounds from our past that haven’t really had time to heal, but life kinda just threw us at each other so we didn’t get the chance. also i’m kinda just getting out of a bad depressive episode and i’m scared that my happiness is leaning too much on this going well and that that’s gonna have negative effects down the line

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

having your happiness based on the future of a relationship without a clear definition in the first place is kind of scary. do you have any close friends you can talk to about this?

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