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I hate I think about breaking up with my partner everytime things get hard…they’re genuinely great but I feel like I’m not mentally strong enough to handle both of us having problems and idk what to do because I love them but I’m not good with stress
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Anonymous 3w

Takes 2 to get through tough times. If you’re doing all the heavy lifting on top of managing your own feelings then that’s not a partnership. Thats charity. You can’t continue to fill someone else’s cup if your own cup is empty. If they can’t see it then maybe look at what actually will fill your own cup.

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Anonymous 3w

I feel this in my soul😔

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Anonymous 3w

I’m in the same position and I don’t know what to do

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Anonymous 3w

Real talk, if you can’t handle your partner having problems as well then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. They deserve someone who can handle their problems as well

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

So easy to say that when we’ve been together for 4 years and live together 🤣 I’m supposed to just throw that away and go on with my life like it’s a middle school relationship?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I just needed to vent bc I feel so helpless sometimes but I know it’ll be okay once the thing that’s bothering them is taken care of just the future isn’t guaranteed so they’re stressed

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Breaking up does not mean it’s anything like a middle school relationship. If you don’t think you’re capable of dealing with the problems your partner has but believe they should be dealing with yours, then yes. Break up. I’m sorry to tell you but that isn’t a good dynamic

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Either that or work on being able to help with their problems just like they help with yours. You’re both human :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I do help them everytime. However it’s not something I can fix ever , It’s this huge thing literally over us like a cloud. Without giving too much information it’s like if a parent died and a spouse just can’t get a hold of themselves bc grief takes time. Sometimes they’re happy sometimes they aren’t and it hurts me knowing there’s nothing I can do to help bc the situation is out of my hands

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Well if there’s nothing you could do regardless than that’s a different story. The way you framed it made me think you just weren’t willing to help with their problems but wanted their help with yours. Yeah just be there for them, that’s really the most you can do. Just let them pass through it and be there the whole time. You got this

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I went through the same exact thing and ended up leaving after 6 years and an entire lease together. I’m not with someone who has taught me how to allow myself to ask for that emotional help. I don’t even have to ask most times because he seeks my energy and does what he has to in order for me to blossom. I’m still unlearning a LOT. It’s not throwing it away. It’s investing in your progress as a human.

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