Relationship Advice on Yik Yak | Need some help: I’m talking to this guy & during the date, he kept mentioning how much I reminded him/would like his ex. I brushed it off even though it made me a little uncomfortable. Later we were “experimenting” & he said “that was better than my ex”

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Need some help: I’m talking to this guy & during the date, he kept mentioning how much I reminded him/would like his ex. I brushed it off even though it made me a little uncomfortable. Later we were “experimenting” & he said “that was better than my ex”

Anonymous 4w

Yeah, so that’s like a major red flag. Who brings up their ex on a first date let alone continuously like this. He’s clearly not over her, and being constantly compared to someone’s ex is super unhealthy and uncomfortable.

Anonymous 4w

But like what do I do? I don’t want him to think that I was “just in it for the hookup” I genuinely was interested ya know

Anonymous 4w

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Anonymous 4w

RUN don’t let him use you as a rebound that’s what guys do when they’re not over their ex and clearly he’s not if he’s brought her up multiple times

Anonymous 4w

I am a straight male and even I won’t defend that. Red flag all around, that guy is not over his ex. Do not get involved with him girl

Anonymous

OP 4w

you gotta get out of there regardless lol it's up to you whether you want to go the ghosting route (I don't recommend it) or just say you had fun but you don't think you're looking for the same things or whatever. if you're a braver person than me you could tell him that it was weird how he kept bringing up his ex

Anonymous

OP 4w

Most importantly, you don’t date him. Like it’s better for him to think any number of things than for you to enter into a relationship with someone who’s not at all in a healthy place to start one. But after that, honestly, I think the best thing you can do for him is to be honest. Telling him that him constantly comparing you to his ex made you uncomfortable and isn’t something you’re looking for in a partner. Then he knows the real reason and won’t do that to the next girl. Win win

Anonymous

OP 4w

If he can’t understand why his comments would make someone uncomfortable especially on a first date, and reacts badly, that’s on him, not you. It’s not your job to teaching basic social skills. At that point, I would just dip, and let him think whatever he wants since it wouldn’t be worth the effort to change his mind anyways