Anonymous OP 4w

we both maintained healthy boundaries as to not do anything that constituted cheating. There was little to no physical contact beyond the shoulder pat when she did something stupid or a high five here and there. We shared a straw a few times. I’m in college 4 hours away now, and she’s gone to hang out with a guy she used to go to school and work with. Shes said that if she ever had a friendship that was similar to ours while we were together, she wouldn’t stay friends with that person, and I —

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Anonymous OP 4w

— I told her that i really didn’t wanna do any homewrecking because that meant that if it could happen with that guy, it could happen to me. I really do think I trust her, and I want to trust her, and I sure as hell don’t want to be the typical jealous boyfriend always bitching to her about hanging out with other people. I understand it’s perfectly normal and good to have other friends. I’m prefacing this part by saying we share our locations with each other willingly. The last time they —

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Anonymous OP 4w

they hung out, they were gonna get dinner but I guess decided they weren’t hungry yet so they went to a Chuck-e-cheese type of place and played mini-golf there. After that, they went to a steakhouse, and then just sat in the parking lot for about an hour IIRC. Then they drove around for a bit, and then she got home super late. Around 11 or so, again IIRC. That was 2 or 3 days ago, and she’s out right now with the same guy. She said he wanted to run it back with bowling, so they went and did —

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Anonymous OP 4w

did that. She told me when they were done, and I wrongly assumed that meant she was heading home so I felt better because it was still pretty early in the evening. However, she told me they drove past both of their exes houses and honked at them, and then they sat in a parking lot for about 20 minutes. Now, they’ve been sitting in an airport parking deck for about 45 minutes and I’m just super uncomfortable. I’m in my own head and I don’t like it. I don’t want to be the same jealous asshole —

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Anonymous OP 4w

that I’ve always seen in stereotypes, and I don’t wanna come off as insecure about our relationship. I want to trust her and feel comfortable with her having fun with friends while i’m gone, but I don’t know what I can do to stop feeling so upset about this. Oh, it’s worth mentioning that the first time they hung out a few days ago, she did not text once from about 6:30 pm until she got home around 11 or so. I was upset about that and gently expressed that to her, but i don’t know if she got —

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Anonymous OP 4w

the message. When she said she was leaving today, I also told her to have fun be safe and to please text me every once in a while if she’s able to. I don’t think that’s unreasonable. She’s texted me two or three times since she left at 4:30, and it’s 9:40 now, but I still feel uneasy. I don’t know what to do.

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