Anonymous #1 1d

Today we messaged a bit and all responses were one-worried and dry. I don’t know what could be the issue. I said “Are we calling tonight?” And he said “I don’t know are we”. We usually call every night since we’re long distance. I said “all good?” And his response was “all good”. That was two hours ago

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Anonymous OP 21h

i’m sorry but i HATE when people act like that. i’m a certified overthinker and this would drive me crazy, reading this literally made my heart drop for you. i’m big on communication so imo i think you should be straight forward and ask him about it, communicate your feelings and concerns. if he doesn’t have a genuine conversation about it with you, id end it. if he can’t communicate and his first response to being upset with you is to act like a child then he’s not worth your time

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Anonymous #2 20h

I agree with #2 but I also think that you should give him space first. Maybe he’s got something going on rn, maybe he’s just in a short mood and doesn’t wanna put you through dealing with it, etc etc. (if that’s the case he should’ve said that, but people often don’t communicate that) I think asking him too much is everything okay might make it worse. Have you ever had someone assume over and over that you’re mad when you’re not, to the point that you actually get mad? Give him a cooldown timer

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Anonymous #1 20h

i get what you’re saying but at the same time i do think there’s ways of communicating that you need space rather than just ignoring and brushing someone off. personally id message him and be like “hey i know i already asked you if we’re ok but ive been feeling (blah blah blah) and i just wanted to check in. if im just overthinking it let me know, id love to talk this out but if you need space right now i totally get that.” obviously more detailed

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Anonymous #2 20h

it gives him space to ask for space and it’s easier to have it all written out so it’s more clear but also so he doesn’t feel pressured like he would in person or otp. its basically showing your cards and saying “your move” / “it’s up to you” without being pushy but again, also communicating

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