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So the guy I’ve been seeing keeps spending the night and wanting to do stuff. How do I tell him I’m uncomfortable with ALL of it? I was SA’d 3 years ago and literally hate the idea of sex or anything sexual. I don’t even have a sex drive or anything.
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Anonymous 15h

You should just be completely honest about how you feel

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Anonymous 15h

We aren’t dating, we haven’t even had an exclusive conversation.

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Anonymous 9h

Yeah you need to just be direct and let him know how you feel. Tell him that you think he’s moving too fast and that you want to slow down a bit. Make sure you tell him that you enjoy your personal time alone and are not ready to have someone in your life as much as he has been.

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Anonymous 8h

Tell him honestly, be straightforward, it’s way better than getting your boundaries crossed and feeling hurt in the relationship and complicating things for yourself and having more baggage and emotions to deal with. Make it clear. Say you need to be honest and communicate something and just say it. You got this. You deserve the kind of love you need and to feel safe and comfortable 🩷

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Anonymous 8h

I’m so so sorry you got SA’d. 🩷 That’s so so awful. I hope you feel better. You deserve to feel comfortable and have your boundaries respected always.

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Anonymous 8h

I had this same problem with my current girlfriend. honestly I waited too long until I ended up freezing up and my wonderful gf stopped and asked if i was ok. Then I explained. I recommend sooner than later

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

this, if he thinks you're playing hard to get or if he can't handle how you feel then it's better off kicking him to the curb sooner rather than later.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14h

Yes, this is true!

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3h

Yall are the best

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