The resident’s and your peers picture of you can be a very distorted and one-sided picture of who you are. Don’t take what they say to and about you to heart. People can be really mean. I would say I was a pretty laid back RA but I just was told by my bosses to search certain rooms (due to photos I submitted to their office) and those people started things when they got wind that I was involved.
I was a new RA this past semester and I kinda let ppl get into my head. Just remind urself that school and ur social life comes first and don’t let this job consume ur entire life. Plus don’t put too much pressure on urself to be perfect right away coz ur still gonna be learning throughout ur first semester in the position. Just keep track of everything ur required to do as an RA and make sure u space things out and not cram everything in last minute
another thing is make sure to set ur boundaries right away so ur residents respect u as a person and dont think they can just intrude on ur space at any time and make u their 24/7 helper. I had a tough time with some difficult residents this semester and since I kinda came in halfway through the year I never really got to properly set my boundaries with my residents since the floor was kinda already established by the previous RA on my floor. Also try to make friends with the other RAs in ur