
I can relate to this, I’m the same way you are and also thought being nice/ the bigger person would pay off but it’s not getting me anywhere. My roommate is messy, leaves food and drinks out in our room, there’s literal bugs in her side of the room, she invites people over without a heads up, allows her boyfriend to barge in the room even when she isn’t in there, won’t clean (even her side) , steals my things, has her friends sleeping in the room with no head up, screams otp all night…
Keeps the overhead light on and when I ask nicely to cut it off or just cut it off because it’s like 2 in the morning she gets mad. All of these things I’ve kindly talked to her about with no change, even talked to the Ra and hall director. So if you want to let it all out, please feel free to dm me I 100% understand the feeling