Anonymous #1 12w

Cats actually fair better when adopted together!

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Anonymous #1 12w

In my experience it’s the opposite. Granted this is purely anecdotal, but it’s the easiest way I’ve found to guarantee cats will like each other (if they like each other when you adopt them), and because they have someone to play fight with, they regulate each other’s behavior and energy well

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Anonymous OP 12w

you aren’t telling the whole story • OP’s roommate has an older cat that does not get along with the kitten and likely won’t socialize with the kitten once OP and their two cats are gone • this cat might even be aggressive, OP says it hisses at the kitten and their cats • the older cat also has kidney problems and OP’s roommate often complains about how expensive food and vet bills are • OP’s roommate has also left her cats unattended while she waits for everyone else to move out

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Anonymous #5 12w

Ok so what I’m hearing is yes OOP should ask for the cat?

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Anonymous #5 12w

Older kitty is included the in the screenshot. Them not bonding with the kitten is not a reason for them to give it away though (the roommate can always adopt a friend for them), and if OP leaves their kitten with the roommate both kittens will still be happy and have playmates. Older kitty is also currently coexisting with the kittens so it is not aggressive. Complaining about bills doesn’t mean they can’t afford it? Anyone would be frustrated to spend thousands in vet bills and (1/2)

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Anonymous OP 12w

buy expensive food. If anything that fact that they are paying these bills shows that they are a good owner. Fourth point is the only real concern, but OP added this after getting a lot of negative responses and downvotes on their comments, so it honestly sounds like something they made up or embellished to make the roommate sound bad (e.g., there may have been an agreement between the two to both take care of the both of the kittens) (2/2)

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Anonymous #5 12w

I’m in similar situation, my cat is an older cat with kidney issues and my roommate adopted a kitten 2 years ago. I’ve been tempted to ask if I could keep her cat when moving out (honestly she would be 50/50 on this, she is not really connected to her car but her bf is) but my cat just barely tolerates her cat and I don’t wanna stress an older lady with a rambunctious cat 😂

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Anonymous #6 12w

There’s nothing wrong with asking. I just find it odd that they have no intention of compromising to keep the cats together (they refuse to consider giving their cat to the roommate), which makes it seem more like they just want the roommate’s cat and are using “keep the cats together” as a reason for why they should have it. If keeping the cats together was the priority then they would consider compromising for the benefit of the cats

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Anonymous OP 12w

🤷‍♀️maybe they would be willing to give them their kitten if roomie says no. If I was them I would do the same, I woukd rather keep the cats I’m attached too, so I would first ask to keep the cat. And it is hard work and expensive to take care of an older cat with health problems, I would know cause I have one. And I won’t get another cat because other cats stress her out, and I wouldn’t trade her for any other cat in the world

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Anonymous #6 12w

If they’re willing to compromise and give them their kitten then it would actually be for the betterment of the kitties. They were deflecting every question in the comments asking that though, so it does not sound like that is the case. I feel like they should just be honest and tell the roommate that they got attached to their kitten and want to adopt it instead of trying to make it sound like the roommate’s kitten needs them to be happy

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Anonymous OP 12w

I truly think it’s both. They want what’s best for the kitties and they also want to be taking care of the kitties. You are kinda ignoring the part where it will be harder for the other roommate to take care of her elder cat as well as two younger cats. We don’t know if OP was actually taking better care of the kittens or not cause they live together and making it easier on their roommate.The other roommate can be overwhelmed when they move apart, or maybe not.

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Anonymous #6 12w

I think it’s fair to want the kitties to be together and to take care of both of them and asking. I just don’t think it’s fair to act like the roommate shouldn’t keep their kitten and will be bad if they do. OP is saying that the roommate’s kitten will be sad and depressed if the they refuse to give them the kitten, as if the roommate isn’t capable of problem solving and maybe getting another kitten to keep their kitten company.

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Anonymous OP 12w

Also if I had one of a bonded pair of cats and the other cat’s owner asked me about keeping them together, I would want to work with them to figure out a solution. I would want to keep them both, but I believe that bonded cats shouldn’t be separated so I would also consider giving away my cat so that it could be happy. If these cats are truly bonded, then if OP truly cares about the cats’ wellbeing, the right thing to do if the roommate declines to give them their cat would be to offer to (1/2)

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Anonymous OP 12w

Give them their cat so that the kittens can stay together imo (2/2)

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Anonymous OP 12w

to your point, the older cat is mentioned in the screenshot you posted but you didn’t mention its health issues, the roommate’s complaining, or that they left their cats without arranging for them to be looked after and i’d hesitate before calling a liar; OP might have forgotten to mention their roommate’s absence since they’ve been gone for an extended period or they might not have considered it essential information

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Anonymous #5 12w

Fair I should have included some of OP’s comments. And that’s a possibility. Tho if OP’s roommate actually left for an extended period of time and OP is taking care of their kitten, then what’s happening with the older cat? Did the roommate take the older cat with them? In which case that would suggest that there was some sort of arrangement or they did it so that the kittens could be together while they were away. Tho if the roommate left the older cat behind as well, then (1/2)

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Anonymous OP 12w

how is it being fed the expensive food OP mentioned? It doesn’t really make sense for someone to spend a lot of money on vet bills and expensive food and then not even give the cat the food. I feel like the story doesn’t really add up

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