Yeah she’s being a bad friend. Is this all new stuff that she used to be better about or did it start more recently. If it started more recently it may be intervention time and salvageable. If not then idk. For Halloween see if you can find other activities with other people. It may be hard but it may also be helpful to maybe make some new friends.

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top of bipolar. basically, she doesn’t clean ever like she will do something and leave trash on the counter and food spills and dirty dishes, i have to do the dishwasher bc she’ll leave it there and never run it if i just load it and she’ll leave dirty dishes in the sink forever if i don’t load it, and she uses the garbage disposal like a trash can but won’t even rinse the food residue in the sink so i have to scrub it. she never takes out the trash and when i ask her to she acts like it’s the>

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biggest inconvenience on earth. she will leave food to rot in her room, and doesn’t clean out the fridge when her leftovers have been there for WEEKS like stop bringing them home then bruh. anyways we got in a fight yesterday bc she was upset after a stupid disagreement w her brother and i asked her to take out the trash and she yelled at me that she “doesn’t have any hands” when she did(she always is straight up mean when she’s in a bad mood) and i told her not to be a bitch and slammed the>

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door on her when she left. i literally have STREP rn and had to clean the kitchen cuz she left dirty dishes everywhere and bags from the groceries MY MOM bought for us and had to scrub the sink and go thru the fridge but god forbid she takes out one of the trash bags(there’s still a full one). also everything that’s in this fucking apartment I bought or my mom bought and it’s frusturating bc she owes me a chunk of money for the pantry i bought but she “has no money for that rn” but she spends >

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it all on sonic and random shit. anyway after the fight she told me she’s going home(we’re in college in a tiny ass town) for halloween bc she “needs” that for herself rn but i feel kind of like she’s being a shitty friend bc she knew her coming w me to these parties(i bought 4 costumes) is important to me bc i just broke up w my bf and my whole friend group followed him cuz they’re dudes. is she being a bad friend for this? i get putting urself first but i ALWAYS do things that r important for>

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her but whenever i need something she always chooses herself. and maybe id be more understanding if she contributed to the apartment by idk not being a complete slob that i have to clean up after but she doesn’t. i feel like the effort in this friendship is very one sided. am i in the wrong for thinking this way? i try really hard to put my mental health issues to the side when my friends need me but she doesn’t do the same. and not to compare but it’s not like she went thru anything crazy, she>

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just lets herself be depressed and doesn’t try and i’m literally going thru a breakup where the guy cheated on me AGAIN and i was in the icu for trying to kms when i found out and then our friend group only hangs w him. on top of all this im not used to living in a tiny town im from a huge city and she’s from an even tinier place than here so i feel very out of place but she doesn’t seem to ever be selfless. LMK PLSSSS

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