Anonymous #1 1w

He says my friends are crazy or chaotic, they’re not we just joke around and say stupid shit lol. He also says they don’t clean up, one time before a pregame we left some glasses out which I later put in the sink. Just minor shit he makes a big deal about. I agree I gotta be more self reliant lol.

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Anonymous OP 1w

the crazy and chaotic thing maybe due to them being too loud? how long do yall stay up and pregame. for the not cleaning up maybe he wanted the dishes cleaned immediately? have u guys tried just using plastic cups instead. ask him to clarify more. you should try and come up with solutions for his complaints cause at the end of the day its both of you guys place. he has no right to not let you have your friends over but your friends also have no right to make him uncomfortable.

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Anonymous #2 1w

you could bring that up as well

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Anonymous #2 1w

i almost never have friends over, if i ask it’s like once a week to once every other week tbh. what really pissed me off was one time his gf said i couldn’t have ppl over and i had to be ok with it…he literally never has ppl over besides his gf lol. if he doesn’t have on campus friends idc i’m not gonna judge him, but i feel like he’s judging me for having a social life and partying. his gf does leave messes sometimes and we both tell her off but it’s annoying and another double standard.

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Anonymous #1 1w

i will admit one of my friends is pretty loud but he’s also an adult who we can tell to be quiet if he does too much. we literally only pregame for like 30 mins to an hour. he had a bad experience with alcohol last year and is uncomfortable around drinking which i entirely respect, but at the same time banning it entirely seems wild when he could just go into his room for a little bit one night out of the week. i never want to make him uncomfortable it just seems like he’s doing too much imo

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Anonymous OP 1w

if i try to come up with a solution he gets uncomfortable and cold and acts like im disrespecting his boundaries just trying to compromise. like i have to beg on my hands and knees just to allow a single friend over to drink for 30 minutes out of the 24 hours in a day u can sit in the living room and watch tv. im probably being insensitive just annoyed atm 😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

yeah bring that up!! also the gf having the audacity to say that is crazy especially because i’m assuming she doesn’t pay rent? but you do so technically you are allowed to do whatever you please i would say atp you need to confront him saying hey you get to have your gf over im having my friends over you do not control what i do i pay rent and i get that he helps you a lot but i hope you see the manipulation in that because you rely on him he knows he can do whatever he wants but keep you in li

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Anonymous #2 1w

ne so i would say fuck it and if he decides to be a dick and no longer drive you or help you ask your friends mine do it all the time and i’m more than happy to take them grocery shopping we get to hang out and talk shit yk?

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Anonymous OP 1w

youre not being crazy at all it seems he is being totally unreasonable. i think what youre gonna have to do is put your foot down and tell him this is my house too and i should allowed to have other people over. definitely allow him for some room to compromise and to make some rules if reasonable. always communicate with him when ppl will be over too. maybe if he doesnt wanna be around alc bring the pregame into your room or another house area. so many compromises can be done

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