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Roommate Rants 4w
Hey y’all I need advice. One of my roommates has been psychologically tormenting the rest of the household since we moved in making weird creepy comments, threatening animals, and even gaslighting and straight up chronic lying in order to seem cooler. 1/2
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Anonymous 4w

It’s gotten so bad that one of his oldest friends who lives with us finally told everyone just how terribly he’s been treated and how he’s been manipulated and coerced into paying for things for him despite him not paying said friend for the internet bill (he’s online all the time with his online friends) which he hasn’t paid in over 10 months which now adds up to over 100 dollars that he refuses to admit that he owes.

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Anonymous 4w

I want you to keep in mind this advice is given under the assumption from your comments that he’s not violent in any way. First thing is to change the WiFi password and not give it to him until he pays up. Second is to get the rest of the household together (the partner too if you can get her) and tell them that y’all need to collectively stop putting up with his bs. Look up the gray rock method and have a recorded form of communication so lies cannot be said.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

But the real kicker is that he was diagnosed with bpd recently and it makes sense as he pushes everyone away while thinking that everyone should worship at his feet. Frankly it’s disgusting and he doesn’t realize why no one likes him anymore and doesn’t hang out with him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

He started medication for it but he hasn’t changed, I worry for his partner who from reports from her friends and the Roomate who used to be really close to him worry that she’s being manipulated too. If this were a situation you were in what would you all do? Aside from getting the hell out of dodge lol.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Sorry for the long post it’s just a fucked up situation, also sorry for dropping the number convention yk 1/2, 2/2, I realized I had a lot more to say than I thought. Any advice is greatly appreciated, thank you!

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 4w

I’m not sure if he is violent, he does own a gun but is not allowed to keep it at the house, my Roomate is in charge of the WiFi so I’ll bring the password change idea up with him. I’m used to grey rocking and many of the others have started doing it too. We all collectively got together the night that the Roomate who was close to him confided in us that he felt manipulated and disrespected to the point of losing a lot of self confidence. We have agreed to not deal with his awful behavior.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

But the results of that remain to be seen as most of the house has travelled home for vacations simply to get away from him and his toxicity

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

can you 100% guarantee that he doesn’t have a gun in the house though or is that just what he says

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I have no way to confirm it without going through his room while he’s away which I’m against for privacy reasons.

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