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Roommate Rants 7w
THIS IS THE OP FROM THE COMMENT ABOUT THE QUIET ROOMMATES - I never said you HAVE to be friends with your roommates - I never said that you have to force them to say anything - There’s a difference between being shy and completely ignoring someone
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Anonymous 7w

Both my roommate and I last year were pretty shy but we’d say hi in passing or help each other out find stuff or get into the dorm but that was about it. It worked well for me bc I’m an introverted person

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Anonymous 7w

Omg….you guys are completely blowing my comments out of proportion. I also never said you SHOULDNT talk to your roommates at all. I’m sure nobody is intentionally ignoring you, some people are just quiet or they’re shy. Silence is not that awkward. Being quiet doesn’t = ignoring. Not saying hello every single time you guys see each other isn’t *rude*.

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Anonymous 7w

Currently going through this 😔

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Anonymous 7w

my problem is when i need to talk to them about our shared spaces and they are ignoring me!! i've reached out multiple times and even left a note with my number!! nothing. i get being shy but i pls be an adult and communicate with the ppl you live with when needed.

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Anonymous 6w

My roommate literally never talks to me, not even a hi or bye or anything. Before we moved in they kept talking about how excited they were to live tgt too

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

Yo seem. He didn’t talk much and neither did I, but as far as I’m aware, there were never too many complaints between us and then we’d help each other out and I think we got along all right

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

Not everyone chooses to have roommates bc they want to make connections, for some it’s just the most cost-effective option. Stop punishing ppl for being quiet bc you feel awkward. Ppl generally don’t owe you anything but respect. As long as they’re being friendly and courteous it shouldn’t really matter whether or not they talk to you every single day. They don’t have an obligation to make you feel less awkward bc of who they are. They do have an obligation however to respect your boundaries.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

For some ppl they generally don’t feel like they have to talk to you at all. And it’s not disrespectful for them. I also don’t see it as being inherently rude. If you feel uncomfortable about it, just talk to them about it instead of making posts. Or move out. I mean you said they didn’t say hi at all or anything. Does this mean you attempted to and they just ignored you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

I’ve had roommates that talked to me and vice vera and they still ended up being shitty roommates. And they were not healthy communicators. Someone being quiet is honestly the last thing you have to worry about unless it really makes you uncomfortable.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

Okay so answer everything you just said. Again, I dont want them to force themself to say hi. But even just one is enough. Since move in day I’ve said hi and introduced myself as well as asking questions. No one has talked or anything. And your “Being quiet doesn’t = ignoring” thats exactly why I said that there is a difference. And your “They don’t have an obligation” Thats why I said nobody should force anyone to do something. I understand your point but theres no need to be rude about it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

sorry if it’s me

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

*same

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

I don’t feel like I’m being rude honestly.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

And I intentionally used quiet instead of shy bc to me shy just means hesitant to initiate interactions/kind of standoffish. Quiet is more intentional like they just don’t talk much, not bc they’re shy but bc they don’t see it as an obligation.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

You made it seem like they were ignoring you. And honestly by what you wrote I thought you were insinuating that they were ignoring you.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

And yeah you say that no one should have to force anything, but idk if you’re like making posts about it and complaining about a specific behavior on a public platform, it kind of looks like to me it is making you uncomfortable and you do want them to talk more. If that’s the case, then you should talk to housing and maybe get a room switch. But like I said, this is honestly the least of your worries unless they’re bad communicators or start acting rudely towards you.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

how in the hell was 4 rude?

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