Yesss the “raised differently” excuse gives such immaturity. Like you lack the ability to want to learn and do better is what you’re telling me

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they always find a way to blame others instead of taking accountability for their actions. Like yes there are other factors that can influence your behavior but at the end of the day there is only so much you can excuse

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My parents raised me to take accountability and not make excuses for myself instead of being a victim. Maybe they should adopt you so they can put the fear of God in ya

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Playing devils advocate: maybe they’re not trying to make excuses but admitting to their fault and giving an explanation. Maybe they don’t want to change? They want you to understand that they’re like what they like period. But instead they should say ‘my parents raised me like this, and I believe in there traditional ways, i am what I am’. Admittance is also apart of changing and recognizing a problem is the first step. There’s no age on becoming your best self, it can happen at 18 or 50.

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You’re not responsible for how you were treated but you’re responsible for dealing with it fs

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As someone who is in a family with no healthy relationships, it's hard to just train yourself into knowing what a healthy relationship looks like. My grandparents are divorced on both sides, my parents SHOULD have been divorced(they show no love for each other, they yell a lot, they threaten divorce) and my uncles are not much better. The healthiest relationship I know is my ex's parents.

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Let’s take it a step further and add that your past trauma does not excuse you from bad decisions you make as an adult

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