Anonymous OP 16w

Maybe it’s time to be real discreet about events you’re going to until the last second, maybe even until after they happen.

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Anonymous #2 16w

She asked me why i was gonna be busy tomororw - am I just expected to lie? She’d be even more upset if she found out I lied

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Anonymous #1 16w

I generally try to be but she often asks further questions. We’re ok friends, just not as close as we used to be. I just hate how she always tries inviting herself to my things but every time you try to talk to her about an issue or behavior of hers she lashes out and makes it about something else so I’m the bad guy in the situation

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Anonymous OP 16w

Just trying to figure out the full scope but is she trying to invite herself to things you yourself were invited to? Like things you didn’t plan and thus have no real say in if she can come or not? Because at that point she’s just making herself upset that’s stupid to think you can just show up last minute with an extra person and it not throw off all the plans.

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Anonymous OP 16w

…. yes, lie. or phrase it so its obvious they cannot come

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Anonymous #2 16w

It kinda sounds like they don’t understand that? Like it sounds like it was CLEARLY not a party she could crash and was still insisting on coming?

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Anonymous #1 16w

She has tried to invite herself to a graduation event I had to rsvp to and only got a plus one to (so it was obvs my partner) and got upset when I told her she wasn’t invited bc she “planned on going out to socialize” that night (it was not a social event and I told her it wouldn’t be). She has also got upset that I got invited to a birthday party and she didn’t when she’s only met this person like 2 times (when he came to the house to see me specifically)

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Anonymous #2 16w

I think I just gotta stop telling her things even when she asks bc I’m a bad lier and I’d feel guilty over doing that

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Anonymous OP 16w

Just say it’s private. Anyone, friend or not, should respect that. Nobody knows what anyone is going through. And stop being dramatic. You’re not the queen of England. I promise your event isn’t the meta gala to be spewing “invite only” like what is this HS musical?

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Anonymous #3 16w

I don’t think it’s dramatic to say “this isn’t my event and I can’t just bring you along last minute that’s disrespectful to the host”. People are allowed to only want certain people at their parties and expect that to be honored.

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Anonymous OP 16w

I had a roommate like this and I would down play it. Like I would be going to a huge party at say Sarah’s house but I would just be like yeah sarah and I are gonna hang out tn so she wouldn’t invite herself to just one on one plans but like your also not technically lying.

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