Anonymous #1 3w

they rlly don’t care about that. other ppl have showered in there before. i don’t think that’s the problem

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Anonymous #2 3w

wdym

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Anonymous OP 3w

Just not tell them if that friend needs/wants to shower there again. It’s really not that big of a deal. And that girl is blowing it out of proportion.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Or do the opposite and say everyone needs to share exactly when they want to use the shower/bathroom so we don’t hurt anyone’s feelings. I just don’t see how you were magically supposed to know she wanted to shower. Dudes take an entire 3 minute shower so it’s not a big deal 😂😂😂

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Anonymous #6 3w

I feel like it wouldn’t have been a big deal if it was a girl but a boy is where they probably draw the line

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Anonymous OP 3w

did the other people shower because they were staying the night? or just randomly in the day?

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Anonymous #4 3w

Downvote me all you like lol. A dude taking a five minute shower when nobody else is home and then OP getting berated for it is fucking insane behavior. Her roommates should go fuck themselves plain and simple

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Anonymous #9 3w

I think the issue is not saying the time he was coming rather than just saying oh my friends gonna use the shower I think they could’ve been like my friends coming at this time that way everyone could plan around it cause it does say one girl had to come back later because he was in the shower

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Anonymous #3 3w

it’s literally a freaking shower, takes 10 minutes, especially for a man? Like “planning around a shower” is the dumbest thing i’ve ever heard. About time the girl came home, he would have been out of the shower or would have had to wait a few minutes. Like it ain’t that serious. Maybe i’m just different, but i could care less if my roommate told me their friend needed to use our shower. Like you honestly wouldn’t even need to tell me.

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Anonymous #9 3w

It clearly said she had to come back later and maybe she didn’t feel comfortable with a man being in the shower you don’t know what else could be going on there that the op left this could like the straw that broke the camels back idgaf what my roommate do either but if it’s like a reoccurring thing then I may care she’s not the only one who lives there and if their not doing that then what they just gotta deal with it cause op wants to do it if two agree against her maybe she the problem

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Anonymous #9 3w

Plus she shouldn’t have to wait for someone who doesn’t live there to finish before she uses HER SHOWER

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Anonymous #3 3w

It clearly states the entire time they were in there none of the roommates were home. Therefore while he was in the shower she wasn’t there! Even if she was on her way there he likely still would have been done before she made it there! Dramatic af!

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Anonymous #2 3w

I just feel like idgaf if my roommates friends use the bathroom or the kitchen as long as I get to go first cause waiting for someone who don’t live there would piss me off too or just coming home and seeing a random ass man come out my bathroom without being asked about it but yall would be the same people mad if the roommate had their SO over all the time

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Anonymous #2 3w

thank you, omg thank you!😭like i don’t understand what’s the big issue here. I would understand if she wasn’t okay with a man being in the shower but that clearly doesn’t seem like the issue to her roommates. The issue was that she was going to take a shower when she got home and should have asked for permission, which she told them anyways…and plus it would be 10 minutes. Literally just 10 minutes. Like why are they acting like we live in the shower?

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Anonymous #10 3w

I think their valid cause it’s different from waiting on your roommate rather than someone who didn’t want to go to their own place cause they deemed it too far

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Anonymous #9 3w

Cause why they gotta wait for someone who don’t live there to finish when he could’ve went home?!?

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Anonymous #3 3w

Omg😭men don’t generally take long showers. And either one, bout time she got home, he would have already been out the shower or two, she would have waited like a few minutes. A few minutes ain’t gonna hurt anyone. Like i don’t understand why this is such a big deal. It’s literally just a goddamn shower😭

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Anonymous #9 3w

Maybe I’m just not understanding why someone who lives there has to be inconvenienced by a guest

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Anonymous #3 3w

No, just some people like to be dramatic and create unneeded problems. And plus i also said maybe im just different. Its a shower, i could care less who uses my shower

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Anonymous #3 3w

i feel like the inconvenience isn’t big enough to warrant the petty reaction tho

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Anonymous #3 3w

The roommate wasn’t there all day, as soon as the other roommate texts her dude friend is taking a shower that girl magically is within the next 30 seconds gonna be there trying to take a shower. 🐠🐟

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Anonymous #10 3w

I agree the reaction was uncalled for I’m not arguing that I’m just saying I’d be a little pissed too but not enough to send passive text

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Anonymous #2 3w

I’m mean she should be allowed to in the next 30 seconds cause she’s the one who paid to live there not his ass

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Anonymous #10 3w

exactly. That’s how it was my freshman year of college. I had to share a bathroom with 7 other girls with only 2 toilets and 2 showers. Like there was a lot of times when the showers were full and i had to wait.

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Anonymous #9 3w

But the thing is those 7 girls lived there and it wasn’t someone who didn’t…

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Anonymous #3 3w

😐…it’s literally a few minutes. It’s not like you have to switch your whole schedule around because of a shower, her roommate just wanted to make it a big deal for no reason.

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Anonymous #9 3w

If I pay to live somewhere I don’t want to wait a few minutes because of someone who ain’t put in but that’s just my preference people who don’t pay shouldn’t inconvenience people who did🤷🏽‍♀️

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Anonymous #3 3w

who cares? I could care less who was in the shower. I just see that all the showers are full so i gotta wait my turn. And guess what, i was completely fine waiting my turn.

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Anonymous #9 3w

I don’t think someone who don’t live there should take space from someone who does

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Anonymous #3 3w

omg😭it’s a shower, jesus😭About time she came home and got situated and figured out what she was wearing, he would have been out the shower. Like why are you acting like a shower is going to inconvenience your whole day?

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Anonymous #9 3w

It would inconvenience me cause why tf someone else using our hot water that I paid for when he could’ve taken his ass to his own house

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Anonymous #9 3w

It would be different if his ass was homeless or had a real reason to need to use theirs other than just not feeling like going home

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Anonymous #3 3w

You just being weird. You clearly are just someone who likes to create unnecessary problems. It would be a few minutes. He ain’t about to be living in your bed😭And how is it an inconvenience. This clearly happened at night, i bet she probably was just about to go home, take a shower and watch some tv or work on homework. Like how would a few minutes inconvenience you?

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Anonymous #9 3w

Cause he could’ve went to his house and you don’t know what the other girls had planned cause she didn’t ask them she just brought the dude there if she doesn’t feel like she has to ask her roommates how she feels maybe she should get a one bedroom 😭

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Anonymous #3 3w

i feel like if he asked to use his friends shower, he probably didn’t live super close. Like say for instance if he lived 20-30 minutes away, would you want to drive that just to take a shower and then drive back. No that’s just stupid

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Anonymous #9 3w

Okay he chose to live off camp of if he ain’t get housing that ain’t got nothing to do with the others im not saying don’t let him use it I feel like the way it was asked should’ve been phrased as a question that way they could’ve voiced their feelings but either way it goes she telling doesn’t equal asking

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Anonymous #3 3w

i dont think it should be a big deal because shower arent gonna take all day.

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Anonymous #9 3w

It’s only a big deal cause she didn’t ask she told them and that’s not how living with others works

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Anonymous #3 3w

A lot of the times, it isn’t a choice. And even if it was his choice, it’s just a shower. I bet if she didn’t even let her roommates know that he was showering at their home, they would have probably never known.

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Anonymous #2 3w

That’s literally what i’m saying. Guys don’t even take that long of showers compared to women. That guy would have been in the shower for 5-10 minutes max. And about time she came home, they would have been gone.

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Anonymous #9 3w

I feel like telling me and not asking me shows you don’t respect me as a roommate cause if she asked I’m certain they wouldn’t have been as mad or would’ve been able to be like I have such and such to do at this time or when will he be done

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Anonymous #3 3w

But at least she told them. She honestly didn’t have to say shit, and i bet once she came home, they would have never know her roommates friend had taken a shower in their house

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Anonymous #9 3w

You keep saying guys don’t I know guys that take long showers maybe yall just know dirty ones but that’s not the point it’s communication cause if the roommates start doing stuff she don’t like with out asking her ass gonna be in her feelings

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Anonymous #9 3w

She did have to say something but when the roommates start doing her this way and getting in her way she gonna make post saying my Roommates do this and don’t ask me roommates like yall need one bedrooms cause why do yall feel like you can do whatever you want in a shared space

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Anonymous #3 3w

I just feel like people just want to create unneeded problems. It’s literally a shower. My roommates don’t even have to tell me if someone needs to take a shower in our apartment, man or woman. she respected them enough by at least letting them know.

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Anonymous #9 3w

She could’ve respected them by asking cause like I said he doesn’t live there if it’s an apartment he doesn’t pay bills and if she want to control shit and not ask for permission then maybe she should pay more than everyone else

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Anonymous #9 3w

Yall should move in tg cause yall a match made in hell 💜

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Anonymous #3 3w

that what be great, i would be way better then her other roommates. Because i don’t cause unnecessary issues. :)

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Anonymous #9 3w

I’d love her other roommates they respect communication

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Anonymous #3 3w

I’m not saying all guys take short showers but also if he is just showering in his friends shower, i would expect it to be just a quick shower to wash his body and get out. So, i wouldn’t expect him to be in the shower for a hour just to do that.

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Anonymous #9 3w

But the thing is the friend isn’t the only one who lives there and they have to be mindful to everyone and not just do wtf they want cause if that’s the case a one bed room will be best for her and his showers

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Anonymous #11 3w

as she said, he’s a commuter which means he doesnt live on campus and therefore it would take too long for him to go all the way back home, shower, and come back all before rehearsal starts

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