Roommate Rants on Yik Yak | AITA if I’m upset that my roommate, 1 of 4 (me included) is not letting me get my ESA cat, which everyone but her is ok with bc her mom is severely allergic. I’m mad bc her mom doesn’t live here, and plus MY cat would stay in MY room.

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AITA if I’m upset that my roommate, 1 of 4 (me included) is not letting me get my ESA cat, which everyone but her is ok with bc her mom is severely allergic. I’m mad bc her mom doesn’t live here, and plus MY cat would stay in MY room.

Anonymous 4w

i dont think youre the asshole, but i do understand your roommate. my mon is also really allergic to cats, enough so that if shes in a room where a cat has one been (even if its been months and the room has been cleaned) her throat will start to close. While it's unlikely your roommate's mom will be staying over (at least i hope) your roommate could be worried about their mom helping them move out or going home on break with their clothes being around the cat allergen.

Anonymous 4w

No lol.

Anonymous 4w

You’re NTA but I am. I would’ve gotten the cat

Anonymous 4w

she can’t legally do that

Anonymous 4w

its probably an excuse bc she doesnt want a cat in the house but doesnt know how to directly tell you which is lowk fair not to want a cat

Anonymous 3w

I had this happen to me but it involved my service dog; she’s a sweet baby and my roommate one of three was “allergic” but she knew months before we moved in that I had a service animal. My dog was registered with the school and state and she still said I wasn’t allowed to have it. She wound up saying I either had to move or the dog had to go; she was then later kicked out of our dorm because she started to harass me, my dog, and my bf only stayed one night because his car broke down.

Anonymous 4w

This happened to me like a week ago. I just moved. Sucks, but it’s better than living on eggshells or not bringing your cat.

Anonymous 4w

so her issue is that when her mom visits shes going to be staying here with us in the girls room…

Anonymous

OP 4w

If your cat is staying in your room, there shouldn’t be an issue. Also, is this something you’ve spoken to your apartment managers about?

Anonymous

OP 4w

Because if the girl isn’t allergic, her mom should be out of the discussion.

Anonymous

#1 4w

yeah im worried its gonna start a rift tbh but ik her mom shouldn’t actually matter. and yeah the apt people know, i have my esa letter just no cat yet bc i was waiting to settle in, but the apt is very accepting of it

Anonymous

OP 4w

Ok. I’d talk to your apartment complex and ask what you should do. Dont leave any information out lol

Anonymous

#2 4w

now if its because she wants her mom to regularly stay over, absolutely not the asshole. let her know that your cat isnt just a pet, it's a tool to aid your mental health. she shouldnt be staying over in the first place. you have paperwork saying you need your cat, if she wants to see her mom she can go visit.

Anonymous

#2 4w

I do get that which is why I’m conflicted. Like I was by no means ever going to let my cat just roam, it would be in my room. And she is not forced to see it either and I love to clean. My thing too is I work with horses too (like almost every day for HOURS) and the moms asthmatic too so I’m confused.

Anonymous

#2 4w

yeah, I’m not sure how often she’s planning to visit… which cat or not I personally don’t feel comfortable with a 5th roommate who’s a parent. but she’s supposedly gonna visit as much as she can and when she does stay over.

Anonymous

#2 4w

Honestly, I’d tell the roommate to take it up with the property manager. 💀

Anonymous

#1 4w

yeah I think I’ll need to. And it sucks bc the 3 of them are all friends and requested to be roommates so I’m just the odd one out, not to say theyre not nice but it makes it awkward.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Not your problem tho. You pay to live there also. The only thing that could complicate it is if that roommate is suddenly allergic to cats.

Anonymous

#1 4w

yeah you’re right. im such a ppl pleaser so im so scared theyre gonna all hate me 😭😭😭

Anonymous

#3 4w

id understand not wanting a cat, the cat isnt going to leave my room though. the only time is when id take it outside for walks and trips and stuff. it truly is for my mental health so id hope shed just be up front with me so i can at least come to an agreement with her

Anonymous

#6 4w

tbh i really might just do it and say nothing 😬

Anonymous

OP 4w

Get them approved by the office and don’t say anything. If she brings it up say “He’s registered in the office, maybe talk to them”

Anonymous

#6 4w

Pretty sure they said it was already approved in one of their previous replies to me!

Anonymous

OP 4w

“My ESA was approved by my provider and management office, I’m sure there are other units”

Anonymous

#1 4w

Yeah get that mf cat shorty 😭😭

Anonymous

OP 4w

I waited to get my ESA cat and at one point just did it. Diagnosed with PTSD due to trauma but I’m never alone anymore

Anonymous

#6 4w

no literally i’ve BEEN waiting for this and i alr have literally everything i need. and its been really hard bc i have no family near me at all let alone in the same side of the country, so its been incredibly difficult and i feel lonely all the time.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Your needs > her mom’s needs