Anonymous #1 4w

That’s what I said but I wanted later on the weekends and she said no

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Anonymous OP 4w

Also my two other roomates agree with me

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Anonymous #2 4w

That’s what I was asking for and she refused to compromise :/

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Anonymous OP 4w

Id ask her what she thinks is reasonable, i personally didnt mind if my roommates had friends over on school nights as long as the volume couldnt be heard with my door shut and a fan on- everyone is different but i can help you write a note to aid the situation if you want

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Anonymous #2 4w

We literally had a two hour long conversation about expectations and if there was any way we could comprise and get to a point we both agreed on and she only wanted her terms, which was everyone out and complete silence

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Anonymous OP 4w

3-1 vote, she loses 😬

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Anonymous OP 4w

If you have an RA, id get them involved, otherwise just tell her that is what everyone agreed on and if she doesnt follow it, she can leave

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 4w

Thank you bc I kinda felt like I was going insane 😭

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Anonymous #3 4w

We don’t even want people over all the time she’s saying at mine WE have to be completely quiet

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Anonymous #4 4w

YES! sorry im one of OP’s roommates and i can literally hear her tromping around the apartment at 2am during her own imposes quiet time 😒😒

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 4w

she refuses to study anywhere else or get headphones 😭😭 save us plz 😔😔💔

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Anonymous #6 4w

To be blunt about it: your situation is simple. There are four people in the apartment and three of them want to have friends allowed over and quiet time to be later than 9pm. Because you have the numbers, you can easily give the ultimatum of get headphones or get out (whether that means study somewhere else or move out is up to her) and there’s very little she can do about it because you live in an apartment where the landlord doesn’t care as long as you follow the lease.

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 4w

TL;DR: put your foot down and stop letting her try to make unilateral decisions for the apartment, she has no power there.

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Anonymous #6 4w

no you’re completely okay i understand the frustration! my roommate is the same way (as mentioned before obviously LMAO) and has a problem with the slightest raised voice/tv sound/anything outside of absolutely unreasonable quiet times. can’t even watch walking dead at a reasonable time (8:00) because if i do she’ll text me to turn it down even if i can’t anymore

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Anonymous #2 4w

as an RA i second this, it’s no good for you to live in tension with your roommate unless we absolutely cannot avoid it

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Anonymous #7 4w

This is a big girl apartment she should be able to sit down and have a conversation with us but she continued to ignore us

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Anonymous OP 4w

ugh i’m sorry i hope she chills out

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