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Roommate Rants 17w
Can I please get advice on what boundaries I can put down with my roommate who cares about a whole lot more than I do? Like she is uncomfortable with my bf who she doesn’t even know/doesnt give a chance and I know it isn’t cause of trauma or pda… (pt 1)
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Anonymous 17w

you should tell her you want to set boundaries (sit down with her one and one) and lay out your needs, like having your bf over, and set specific boundaries surrounding your bf (ask if she would be more comfortable if he just stayed for certain time frames, like during the day only, during certain times, etc) also influence her to communicate directly, and communicate EVERYTHING, even the small insignificant things. i noticed that my roommate would bottle up when i was doing little things that

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Anonymous 17w

(2): she lets things pile up and talks bad about me. I just don’t want another bad roommate, there’s more. Please help!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

irked her, and that led to a lot more issues between us. you should make sure youre both comfortable communicating and tell her that its okay to feel certain ways in the shared space and to communicate everything, even if its small things because otherwise she will bottle it up and itll boil over (same goes for you!) also just set general boundaries for both of you (expectations for guests, chores, etc) writing them down can help stick to them and holding each other accountable. dont be afraid

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

to communicate to one another if a boundary has been crossed or a new boundary has to be set. finally, remember that as a roommate, you dont have to make her like your bf or cater to her overreacting, you deserve a space you feel safe and comfortable

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

Thank you so much!! This helped so much.

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