Anonymous #2 16w

I understand and I’ve been depressed for years but I still shower. It’s not an excuse, this person is just nasty they also have a 9-5 job and are in general unhygienic. It’s really disgusting when you’re sharing a space, bathroom or whatever. Nobody wants to deal with it, I don’t feel bad for them and I’m grossed out, they have also been dishonest with me about things. I’ve been happier since going to college and have way too much shit to do, showering is the least of my problems

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they would shower before we moved. It’s a reason, not an excuse. Disgusting

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Anonymous OP 16w

i understand that you were able to function when depressed, you found showers to be soothing. not everyone has this experience with showers, i find showers incredibly overwhelming and can be incredibly hard to bring myself to do. i understand you find their habits to be gross but you truly don’t understand their experience and judgement isn’t going to help their situation. having a genuine conversation about your concerns could be that doesn’t present them as being nasty. they could genuinely…

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Anonymous OP 16w

be trying their best. they may not be aware of how they’re impacting the people around them, they may need help with things. you can’t just say it’s an excuse. if they were showering before and now they’re not there’s likely a reason, you should ask if there’s anything else going on.

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