Roommate Rants on Yik Yak | How do I delicately tell her that she feels really hot, sweaty, and gross all the time and that her back hurts bc of all the weight she put on? She’s gained ALOT in the past year but thinks the “squish” is a cute aesthetic. Tired of hearing the complaints

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Roommate Rants 13w

How do I delicately tell her that she feels really hot, sweaty, and gross all the time and that her back hurts bc of all the weight she put on? She’s gained ALOT in the past year but thinks the “squish” is a cute aesthetic. Tired of hearing the complaints

Anonymous 13w

This might be a hot take, but people who truly love their body no matter what weight they are don’t complain like this. She may be claiming that it’s a “cute aesthetic” but she’s clearly not happy with herself and is lashing out at the people around her with her complaints. There’s not much you can do except to not feed into it. Ignore her complaints and don’t respond to any attempts to make a conversation about it.

Anonymous 13w

Like, idc if she gains weight but she complains about aches and pains and being hot/sweaty. Even complains that we aren’t as sweaty. Like, idc what she does but I don’t wanna hear the whining over her choices.

Anonymous

OP 13w

Update, she got mad that I was apparently touching her while on the bus. Pointed out that she’s the one over the line between the seats. She’s now pissed and won’t talk to me

Anonymous

#1 13w

Yeah. Any time someone’s said it’s her weight she gets REALLY mad and is all “body positivity” but then complains about her body. She also tries to push body positivity for other people when they say they want to lose weight. Like no, I lost 20 lbs to be healthier, it’s not about how I look. I mentioned I gained back 10 of those pounds and should try to lose them again and she rants to me that I don’t have to when I do it for my health. Less weight means less pain with my foot problems also lol

Anonymous

OP 13w

The most anti body positive think imo is assuming people lose weight or are worried about weight for the looks. Are you saying that I couldn’t possibly have been ok with how I looked??

Anonymous

OP 13w

Sounds more like she doesn’t want you to lose that weight so you can be miserable with her.

Anonymous

#1 13w

Possibly. I also wonder if she’s trying to do the whole “look better by comparison” thing bc before I lost the weight I was a bit bigger than her and she’s get more attention. Not a lot but just more. Recently we were out and I got cat called, and when she tried to say thanks the guy said “ugh not you, the hot one”. Which was very rude of the guy (and I said so bc wtf rude), but she was mad that I was the complimented one, not that the guy said it.

Anonymous

OP 12w

This might sound wild, but she IS upset that you’re “the hot one” now. She’s used to being “the hot one” based on weight (which isn’t a healthy body image but not that’s not your issue) and now that the roles are reversed she’s desperately trying to manipulate you into gaining weight again to regain the “hot one” title. Basically she’s a far more shallow person than you thought and you might need to cut her out of your life, or at least reduce contact.