This might be a hot take, but people who truly love their body no matter what weight they are don’t complain like this. She may be claiming that it’s a “cute aesthetic” but she’s clearly not happy with herself and is lashing out at the people around her with her complaints. There’s not much you can do except to not feed into it. Ignore her complaints and don’t respond to any attempts to make a conversation about it.
Yeah. Any time someone’s said it’s her weight she gets REALLY mad and is all “body positivity” but then complains about her body. She also tries to push body positivity for other people when they say they want to lose weight. Like no, I lost 20 lbs to be healthier, it’s not about how I look. I mentioned I gained back 10 of those pounds and should try to lose them again and she rants to me that I don’t have to when I do it for my health. Less weight means less pain with my foot problems also lol
Possibly. I also wonder if she’s trying to do the whole “look better by comparison” thing bc before I lost the weight I was a bit bigger than her and she’s get more attention. Not a lot but just more. Recently we were out and I got cat called, and when she tried to say thanks the guy said “ugh not you, the hot one”. Which was very rude of the guy (and I said so bc wtf rude), but she was mad that I was the complimented one, not that the guy said it.
This might sound wild, but she IS upset that you’re “the hot one” now. She’s used to being “the hot one” based on weight (which isn’t a healthy body image but not that’s not your issue) and now that the roles are reversed she’s desperately trying to manipulate you into gaining weight again to regain the “hot one” title. Basically she’s a far more shallow person than you thought and you might need to cut her out of your life, or at least reduce contact.