
I know a man who batted above his average. He knows it and he’s insecure af. He’s cheated, bathes in cologne, wears his hair like 3-4 inches high, is paranoid of being cheated on, and is in general one of the most annoying people I’ve ever met. Get with someone you genuinely like as a person and are attracted to, it’ll go better. You being attracted to them doesn’t mean they need to be Hollywood standard, just your type.
Oh that I get because I like personality and develop the interpersonal chemistry before I start getting attracted to someone but even if they’re not “conventionally” attractive according to whatever arbitrary metric I always make my partner feel attractive. Because, to me they are. I’ve been told by people this is a bad idea because they’ll break up with me for someone else. Like ok if they do, that’s a them issue. I feel like it’s lowkey abusive to not make your partner feel hot though.