
Hi OP, not sure if you considered foreplay. It’s a lost art now a days. The goal is to synchronize the senses of both partners. Foreplay does that. But it takes time and skill because it’s like dancing of sorts using the senses. The shortcut people take is basically keep each other on edge and feeling like on the edge of the cliff which heightens the senses. That is also a way to synchronize but it’s a shortcut and foreplay is better long term.
That’s a super predictable routine. So from her perspective, it’s just boring and not stimulating. It’s not your fault or hers, just the reality. You need to disrupt the pattern as well. If you come across as super busy and exhausted, that’s hard to get horny over right? So how can we break that trend and have her thinking of you?
Also, you might want to consider reading or listening to the book “No More Mr. Nice Guy.” Essentially talks a lot about why you’re likely going through. You’re doing everything you’re supposed to right? Good job, work hard, attentive at home - so what gives? Why can’t you get what you clearly deserve? That book breaks a lot of this down nicely.