by the woman he had a child with. he walked in on them in his bedroom having sex. i asked him if any topic was off limits for degrading him and he said absolutely zero limits and as intense as possible. am i horrible person for using that to degrade him? something along the lines of “no wonder she cheated on you in your own bed, you’re such a pathetic fucking loser”. i want to make him happy and he said no limits but im so scared of actually hurting him.

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he also said he wants the ways i degrade him to be more of a surprise so i also don’t want to ruin the experience for him by asking if he’s ok with it. he said if i go too far he wont even tell me in the moment, he wants to wait until aftercare to talk about it.

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Or agree on a safe word. He says it, you stop.

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