General on Yik Yak | i had an abortion about a month ago. i recognized that i shouldn’t bring someone into this world when i can barely take care of myself. my partner and i were positive we were infertile, turns out not. no one talks about the guilt you can feel from.. pt 1

Yik Yak

Download

Join communities on Yik Yak Download

General 1d

i had an abortion about a month ago. i recognized that i shouldn’t bring someone into this world when i can barely take care of myself. my partner and i were positive we were infertile, turns out not. no one talks about the guilt you can feel from.. pt 1

Anonymous 1d

this. not from the abortion itself but the nuisance of scrolling on social media and seeing the videos of people who tried to get pregnant for so long and finally do, you realize in a way that that could’ve been you. that that pregnancy could have been ur “finally” moment but instead it was the scariest and most disassociating experience of your life. no one talks about the fear of maybe one day actually getting better, having a good job, an actual life and then wanting a baby and then not..pt 2

Anonymous 22h

You have all these possibilities of a different life from a different choice tormenting you. Remind yourself that you made this choice for a reason. You clearly know the odds, and that having the baby wouldn’t have been good for anyone. Think about it this way- you eliminated potential suffering for you, your partner, and your potential baby. You get to recover and move on. If you believe in souls, the mane that soul is born elsewhere. You didn’t bring any bad into he world. You merely prevented

Anonymous 17h

I mean its just life some die of thirst while others drown, I absolutely cannot imagine affording to live on my own and not in my parents house let alone have a child currently, & i am perfectly fertile, there are millions of fertile people that do not want children & millions who are infertile that dream of having kids, both are valid & it is TOTALLY valid to have an abortion you absolutely did the right thing, imagine if u kept the child & the stress you and ur family would be in

Anonymous 1d

You are not responsible for the health or feelings of anyone else, only you. You can choose how to frame and approach it moving forward. If you feel you need support, reach out to someone you trust or look into meeting with a therapist about it.

Anonymous 17h

I personally think you made the right choice

Deleted 13h

Comment Deleted

Anonymous

OP 1d

being able to conceive again. i have a sort of ocd where i can convince myself that i am the worst, that i could’ve always done something differently, everything. this has made it so much worse and i am now worried about the cosmic negative karma i have put on myself by doing this. yet at the same time i know if i had brought a baby into this world it would have drowned not only me but that baby in a world of pure suffering in so many ways yes i have a partner but he was no where near ready..pt3

Anonymous

OP 1d

either. does anyone have any tips on how to feel better about this and make this guilt feel lighter? i cant seems to escape these thoughts that i have only temporarily averted the sadness, confusion, and emotional turmoil of having a baby for a little while and will pay for it in some other way later on in life. i am not religious so i am not worried about afterlife at all, i am more worried about the karmic puddle of bad that i have created for myself by not accepting the bad reality of.. pt3

Anonymous

OP 1d

just having the baby. am i wrong for thinking that i was worthy of a chance to get better mentally and physically before bringing someone else to this world or should i have just took the risk and maybe a baby would have fixed me and maybe i wouldn’t have plunged into postpartum depression and just took that risk? i dont know

Anonymous

#2 22h

More suffering. The net suffering is DOWN because of you. Never forget that you chose this route for a reason <33

Anonymous

#2 10h

thank you <3

Anonymous

#1 10h

my therapist moved a little while ago and i’ve been so slow to find a new one because then i just have to restart w another stranger 😭

Anonymous

#1 10h

but thank you for ur reply <3

Anonymous

#3 10h

thank you <3

Anonymous

#4 10h

thank you honestly <3

Anonymous 10h

the only reason i was having unprotected sex was because my partner and i were told we had the lowest chances of ever conceiving. unless the doctors who told us that were going to take the baby idk who else would’ve been fit enough to take care of that baby. the foster system in this country is abysmal and my care probably wouldn’t have been much better. sex isn’t a prehistoric act to merely reproduce anymore, it makes people feel good and sometimes just pleasure and not duty is okay.

Anonymous 10h

if i had an idea that i could have ever gotten pregnant i would be on birth control but why would i flood my body with hormones that would make me feel like im going more insane than just being natural? and if neither of us thought it was possible there was no thought to take an emergency contraceptive either and stop it all before conception. sorry i’m not a cat that sniffs cancer on top of being a person w lots of empathy.

Anonymous 10h

Or abort it lol

Deleted 10h

Comment Deleted

Deleted 10h

Comment Deleted

Anonymous 10h

Yeah huh. Who cares what you think? lmao

Deleted 10h

Comment Deleted

Anonymous 10h

I meant why should we care what you think?

Deleted 10h

Comment Deleted

Anonymous 9h

That’s not an answer. Why is your opinion worth listening to and taking seriously?

Anonymous 9h

taken*

Anonymous 9h

all i’m saying is it was not planned and exactly ur mom got pregnant even with birth control and if she was in my position with my resources she could’ve made the same decision i did. and foster care is where children end up when a kid is given up not just when custody or revoked.

Anonymous

OP 9h

Ofccc gotchu always 🫶🫶