
Maybe put yourself in the situation if the one with cancer? Or the child of one with cancer? Add up all of the minutes of staring? Every single person “only stares for 5m” from every encounter. Every day. All day. Everywhere. What the stating means to YOU is not the point. You have 2 for 2 asking you to NOT stare. We are telling you how it is perceived.
Sorry if I offend you, I was trying to give my pov. I find all bald people heads confusing becuase I can’t tell if they are actually bald or not and I don’t assume they have cancer i think it was a fashion choice. I read your comment as a bit abrasive which I don’t think you meant you prablly just felt as though I was judging your family which I wasn’t, I just stare at everyone even people in cloths I don’t normally see. It’s not a mean thing, sorry for the confusion.
I understand the confusion sometimes truly I do! But I’ll put an example out that kinda bugged me. I was at a restaurant with my family there’s like 6 of us. This older couple sat near us right after we were sat and the older lady I wish I was kidding was staring the whole time we were eating. At first I was like ok I understand completely I’m young, a female, and fully bald. I get looking a couple times but staring constantly for over an hour…it made me extremely uncomfy so I waited until
I heard her say to her husband “do you think she knows people stare at her because of her choice in being bald” and i absolutely lost it. Again. Understand wanting to comprehend but once she said something it absolutely ruined staring for me. I went up and told her cancer took my hair it was never a choice and even if it was the constant staring is so so disrespectful and just odd. I get I can’t control others but since then the states I get constantly make me feel like that older lady did😭😭