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I’m a chick with a bald head due to cancer (I beat it btw!) but what is it with everyone staring😭😭😭
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Anonymous 1w

firstly congrats for beating cancer! secondly, baldness is mostly a man thing, so when people see bald women, they tend to be a little curious

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Anonymous 1w

Maybe put yourself in the situation if the one with cancer? Or the child of one with cancer? Add up all of the minutes of staring? Every single person “only stares for 5m” from every encounter. Every day. All day. Everywhere. What the stating means to YOU is not the point. You have 2 for 2 asking you to NOT stare. We are telling you how it is perceived.

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Anonymous 1w

People like shiny objects

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

thank you! I just find it odd how many stars but continue to stare after they’ve been caught many times looking. Like kids do it and I get they don’t understand but grown adults? I mean come on🥹

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Nah. Kids are curious. Ur grown. Don’t stare. It’s rude.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I’m a curious grown adult, I have a starring problem when I don’t understand something. I will look until I can comprehend most of the time

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

That’s a you problem. I have a mom with cancer. And it’s not for you to comprehend

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Sorry if I offend you, I was trying to give my pov. I find all bald people heads confusing becuase I can’t tell if they are actually bald or not and I don’t assume they have cancer i think it was a fashion choice. I read your comment as a bit abrasive which I don’t think you meant you prablly just felt as though I was judging your family which I wasn’t, I just stare at everyone even people in cloths I don’t normally see. It’s not a mean thing, sorry for the confusion.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

I was trying to say to op and to you their is no need to perceive the staring as meaning anything as it’s not as thoughtful to the people staring as it to the person being stared at( as someone who often get stares).

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

I understand the confusion sometimes truly I do! But I’ll put an example out that kinda bugged me. I was at a restaurant with my family there’s like 6 of us. This older couple sat near us right after we were sat and the older lady I wish I was kidding was staring the whole time we were eating. At first I was like ok I understand completely I’m young, a female, and fully bald. I get looking a couple times but staring constantly for over an hour…it made me extremely uncomfy so I waited until

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

I heard her say to her husband “do you think she knows people stare at her because of her choice in being bald” and i absolutely lost it. Again. Understand wanting to comprehend but once she said something it absolutely ruined staring for me. I went up and told her cancer took my hair it was never a choice and even if it was the constant staring is so so disrespectful and just odd. I get I can’t control others but since then the states I get constantly make me feel like that older lady did😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I’m so sorry you experienced that, an hour is so creepy , I’m thinking like 5 minutes max and that over the course of 20 minutes. Also talking about someone within earshot of them and not talking to them directly soooo rude.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Those who stare for very short times i genuinely don’t mind because i understand curiosity but yeah with how long she stared i was just flabbergasted. But it’s not always like that but sadly id say a lot of my encounters are😭😭😭

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