General on Yik Yak | genuine question because this seems like a bit of a paradox to me, if all it takes to be a certain gender is to identify with it, why is gender disphoria a thing, and why must people go to such extreme lengths (hormones, surgeries, etc.) to quell that

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General 4w

genuine question because this seems like a bit of a paradox to me, if all it takes to be a certain gender is to identify with it, why is gender disphoria a thing, and why must people go to such extreme lengths (hormones, surgeries, etc.) to quell that

Anonymous 4w

Appreciate the insight here, I’m still a bit confused on some aspects, but I think time will help!

Anonymous 4w

To match their idea of that gender to themself, and to present as that gender. Basically, before you identified with a gender, and then you show that you identify with that gender.

Anonymous 4w

because even though that’s the truth that’s not how society treats you and it can become distressing when you’re constantly treated in a way that invalidates your identity. maybe one day society will be able to respect people’s gender identity no matter what they look like but we’re not there yet

Anonymous 4w

Also my understanding is that gender dysphoria isn’t immediately treated by transitioning. It is its own diagnosis independent of being trans and in some cases is probably treated with psychotherapy to figure out why someone is feeling it. If all else fails and it becomes clear that someone will not feel better until they transition, then that’s when it becomes an option

Anonymous

#1 4w

Also, why is the inverse not a paradox? If you choose to be a cisgender man, why don’t you wear dresses?

Anonymous

OP 4w

I think the best way to think of it, is kind of like the reason a man doesn’t wear dresses. If all he needs to be a man is to identify as one, why does he not wear dresses?

Anonymous

#1 4w

I didn’t really say it wasn’t, but I guess I don’t think of it as a choice to be a cisgender man, or a transgender man for that matter either, wear what you want, I’m saying that to me it’s seems like there’s a conscious effort to dress to match the gender you identify with by trans people because usually there is a switch in dress when they begin to identify with a gender other than what they were AAB

Anonymous

OP 4w

Ye, humans are very strange creatures. It’s best to just dumb a lot of things down like this to ‘preferences’ and not think of it in too much depth