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General 14w

Why do men actually hit women? There’s no reason to do it, if you’re physically stronger, you only do it to prove a point? Why? At a low point right now sorry

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Anonymous 14w

They do it because they’re too cowardly to fight someone physically stronger than them so they go after someone who can’t/won’t fight back

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Anonymous 14w

Poor mental health and decision-making

Anonymous 14w

If a woman is hitting me I would absolutely hit her back, you might be too dull to understand that female on male domestic abuse does actually happen. In the case of men just hitting women for no reason, that’s so scummy.

Anonymous 14w

The same reason anyone hits anyone it’s just that some men can’t show restraint even for women. Could also be they feel safe to do so without getting beat up back.

Anonymous 14w

So many guys here outting themselves as abusers

Anonymous 14w

i reported every single one of you creeps who admitted to violence against women. i wish your mother raised you better.

Anonymous 14w

It’s about control many men don’t truly view women as equals even if they say they do especially in cases of domestic violence if verbal control and manipulation stops working or if the abuse has escalated to a certain point men will start to use violence the combination of emotional abuse manipulation threats of violence and physical violence against women can keep them stuck in unsafe situations where leaving is not always an option because the next step after physical violence stops working

Anonymous 14w

I believe most behaviors were installed to all people from poor parenting and emotionally unavailable parents

Anonymous 14w

Why do women hit men when they’re angry or upset? There’s no reason to it, even if to “prove a point”. Why?

Anonymous 14w

If a woman hits you as a man you just have to leave nothing else to do lose lose lose lose situation gotta control that temper. But as a man if a man hits me it’s crash out time

Anonymous 14w

As a man, the only men who hit women (unless in necessary self defense) are little bitches and cowards. They do it because they’re weak and pathetic and know you won’t fight back, and because it’s a cheap and easy way to feel stronger because they would never have the guts to hit a man like that

Anonymous 14w

Why the fuck are some of the dudes in here saying dumb shit like “sigma move”? Go touch grass, get a job, get out of your stale basements where you hide behind screens—just stop being the literal worst of humanity you absolute degenerates. In no world is violence against women ok. I don’t give a fuck if she hit you first. Quit being a baby and leave the relationship if you’re so damn bothered. You have way more opportunity than she does bc people like YOU have oppressed women for millennia

Anonymous 14w

I dont understand how others hit anyone tbh. I get mad same as the next person but i was beat on so much as a kid that now that im an adult i see people getting slapped for “small” shit or getting their ass whooped in the middle of the store and question what the though process is that allowed whoever to hit first. Dont get me wrong there have been times ive “wanted” to hit another person but does everyone not posses self control over their own actions?

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Anonymous 14w

Hit me first, I’ll hit u back. Very simple

Anonymous 14w

so many angry men in the comments. makes me wonder. are yall hitting your girlfriends? is that why it hit a nerve when you saw this post

Anonymous 14w

Because the people who raised them failed to teach them how to manage their emotions, and when an adult hits a child it builds up the logic that raising your hand is an acceptable method of handling things.

Anonymous 14w

Equal rights, equal lefts

Anonymous 14w

Why do “women beaters” actually hit women? We have a term for this type of person. It’s not “men”.

Anonymous 14w

I hate the answer “they’re just too insecure and cowardly”. No. Is it true in some cases? Maybe, but the most common answer is that they’re terrible people who aren’t going to change and are not worth your time.

Anonymous 14w

Cuz men who hit women are losers. The only acceptation is if she’s attacking you/ threatening your life with a knife or weapon

Anonymous 14w

If there is any hitting happening in a relationship it’s a bad situation and you deserve better no matter what

Anonymous 14w

Why are we hitting anyone?

Anonymous 14w

they do it to feel power, they’re cowards. no real man would ever lay his hands on a woman

Anonymous 14w

Respect. When you’re dating someone you should have the utmost respect for them, and never want to hurt them. No one should put hands on you especially the person that is suppose to support protect and love you. If your the one inflicting pain for dominance, control, to prove a point or just because you can you deserve to be left behind. There should never be an excuse for that behavior. You don’t respect your partner you shouldn’t have one, that’s not love and you need to work on yourself

Anonymous 14w

If they are a dick, it’s BECAUSE they are stronger. If they aren’t it’s self defense. There’s not a lot of other things it could be.

Anonymous 14w

To assert dominance.

Anonymous 14w

Because theyre weak in some way and they know women cant fight back like another man could

Anonymous 14w

Ego probably🤷‍♂️ pathetic stuff fr

Anonymous 14w

You seen the comedy bit Bill Burr did about this? If not look it up

Anonymous 14w

Why contain the conversation to just men hitting women? It’s men’s mental health awareness month, and plenty of men are subject to physical, verbal, and emotional abuse, phrasing it the way you did unnecessarily villainizes men. If we want equal rights, we need to have these conversations as such, as equals.

Anonymous 14w

Whole things I kinda sexist? What is the gender wall we are forming? Like I love hitting everyone, that’s equality.

Anonymous 14w

I mean idk how slow you gotta be to only look at it from that persepective. It’s sometimes just about reaction or in some cases lack of self control for many reason simply not raised right or emotion, for example let’s say a man who watched his father hit his mom growing up he might then grow up to think that’s how a relationship should be or another example a man catches his gf of 6 years cheating on him with a guy from a bar he might hit her due to emotional reason. It’s not ok but not js b&w

Anonymous 14w

Why do some men become serial killers? Why do some women kill their babies? Why do some women kill other people’s babies? Why do some women hit men and expect not to get hit back? Could ask a lot of questions like this

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Anonymous 14w

Hands are rated E for everybody.

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Anonymous

#4 14w

That’s not what they were implying. You sound like you are projecting

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Anonymous

#13 14w

Is murder which is where in most case women who attempt to leave abusive situations are killed abuser will continue to up the stacks of what they’ll do to control if one level of abuse stops working

Anonymous

#12 14w

my mother told me don’t let ANYONE put hands on me …

Anonymous

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Anonymous

#14 14w

Hearing a lot of complaining

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Anonymous

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Anonymous

#1 14w

We can tell you didn’t read the whole comment before responding

Anonymous 14w

Why do women hit men when they know they are weaker?

Anonymous

#1 14w

Did you read the second half of my comment

Anonymous

#1 14w

Bonehead

Anonymous 14w

Absolutely does NOT excuse generalizing such a terrible act to all men. I’m extremely sorry that OP had to go through something like that, I have too. But I’m a man, and no one will ever care about my story or other men’s stories because of posts like these. I’m asking for equality, not trying to downplay abuse.

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Anonymous

#31 14w

Except by doing ur little smartass response deflecting from someone asking about being abused you are in fact downplaying abuse. Have some perspective man

Anonymous

#35 14w

If u are looking at somebody wresting with the psychological impact of physical abuse and asking for help and your first thought is “actually they shouldn’t have said that because it hurts my feelings 😔” you need to seek help

Anonymous

#35 14w

This is exactly what I’m talking about, thank you for proving my point. 😂 Again, if you can read, I wasn’t downplaying OP’s abuse, I was opening the conversation to include idk the other HALF of the population, and if you interpreted it in an offensive way that’s YOUR issue. No one is offended here except you, apparently. I’m sorry you can’t comprehend having an open minded conversation about abuse in general.

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Anonymous

#35 14w

Also stop trying to twist intentions, I never said OP shouldn’t have said anything at all, just try to include others in the conversation since abuse affects EVERYONE. It’s quite simple to understand if you can read, but nah twist things around to villainize me for speaking out for men in general lmao

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Anonymous 14w

I am not embarrassed whatsoever, I completely stand by what I said. Look at you trying to twist my words yet again, if you actually read (which by this point I’m not confident that you can) my comment, I asked to open the conversation to include men. How is that villainizing her? I told her, from a man’s perspective, that the phrase “why do men hit women” is an unnecessarily generalized statement. If I said “why do women suck at driving” you would 100% perceive it as a general statement.

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Anonymous 14w

Inclusion is not villainizing anyone, in fact it’s doing the opposite. The fact that you’re sitting here, incredibly mad and emotional (I can tell by the way you stopped making an argument and resorted to insults) and refusing to have an open minded conversation about abuse in general is wild, and incredibly ignorant. I hope you find help.

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Anonymous 14w

Go ahead and by hypocritical too, by downplaying my very real and very traumatic abuse. Men’s mental health month btw

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Anonymous

#37 14w

Na but I will say that I have had women lie about me when I’ve done nothing wrong. It’s happened twice and it really devalues any claims made by women along these lines

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Anonymous

#37 14w

It’s a heavily loaded question that implies that in general men are either all hitting women or somehow okay with it (we’re not)

Anonymous

#37 14w

It’s like asking “why do women cheat?”

Anonymous

#39 14w

Exactly what I’ve been saying, but I’ve been getting nothing but hate from women who apparently don’t believe in equality

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Anonymous

#42 14w

They’re terrible people who are ALSO insecure and cowardly

Anonymous

#41 14w

Not always, sometimes they’re some of the least insecure people you’ve met which is what tricks people. That’s why I don’t like immediately defaulting to calling them insecure.

Anonymous

#4 14w

😘

Anonymous

#39 14w

Cope harder

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Anonymous

#42 14w

I say they are cowardly cus in some cases they back off when someone bigger and stronger than them gets involved. And other times they hopefully get their ass beaten

Anonymous

#46 14w

Cuz their parents hit them, pretty simple.

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Anonymous

#4 14w

I’m leaving lwork

Anonymous

#44 14w

That’s not actually a common denominator between a lot of cases of DV. Also my point was why is ANYONE hitting ANYONE? No one should be doing that regardless of gender, etc except in self defense or reasonable defense of others

Anonymous

#46 14w

Shit man that’s news to me, I was pretty sure there was pretty damning evidence that most abusers were abused in some way. It’s kind of just poor parenting all the way back to the dawn of time Yknow?

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Anonymous 14w

Nice to know you openly admit to not giving a fck about men’s mental health, it’s all about you right? You need to be put back in kindergarten or an asylum, either would sort out your ignorant, selfish mindset (or your inability to read). Sybau.

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Anonymous

#1 14w

u have brain damage

Anonymous

#44 14w

I don’t wanna hear your next pretty sure “most ‘noun’ are ‘adjective’. ”stat. Do you have a small black square moostache?

Anonymous

#49 14w

Nope, like it’s obviously not like none of them ever got hit but being hit is still not the top commonality between abusers

Anonymous

#49 14w

And I don’t care what you do or don’t want to hear. I bet you hit women or do something just as bad that you want something to blame it on by the way you’re talking

Anonymous

#46 14w

But like what is then?

Anonymous

#44 14w

Being abused is not an excuse to continue abuse. I was abused and I don’t hit people

Anonymous

#50 14w

I believe OP was referring to men who abuse women on a regular basis. Nothing is black and white but the fact of the matter is, it’s usually a power dynamic for most, if not all, of these situations. Most of these types of men would never treat a man the way they treat women. It’s unfortunately common for men (especially from the south) to feel the need to overpower a woman because in their eyes we are lesser than them, subhuman even.

Anonymous

#24 14w

Why do people hit people? Can we just stop with the assault and battery and resolve our issues like fucking adults. Gosh

Anonymous 14w

Hey so, #14, guess who’s getting reported? Fucking loser

Anonymous

#52 14w

You etched that shit into society as some sort of normal human reaction, and I will never understand why. Do you hit your mothers, sisters, and grandmothers too? Take the wife beater off, fix your alcohol problem, get an education, and quit being an actual loser. Best bet I don’t EVER see yall hitting a woman.

Anonymous

#4 14w

I hate when men use “male domestic abuse” as a comeback to shitty male behavior. It hurts not only women, but men that have been abused. So stfu you prick.

Anonymous

#13 14w

Call 911 and order a pizza (code word for someone who is being actively abused)

Anonymous

#17 14w

Why do men use bad women to justify their own creepy ass behavior

Anonymous

#31 14w

you are being ignorant to the conversation. making it about yourself. that is the problem here.

Anonymous

#9 14w

my momma too, but thats the difference. i’ll bet that OP did not put hands on her abuser first. we fight for self defence, not because we can.

Anonymous

#51 14w

The argument presented seems to contradict itself. Research indicates that domestic violence (DV) rates are indeed higher among women than men, with studies showing that women perpetrate intimate partner violence at a rate of 28.3% compared to 21.6% for men. Additionally, there is considerable anecdotal evidence available online that suggests men face domestic violence at notable levels as well. So please, stfu you prick.

Anonymous

#48 14w

No but I got the horny 😩😩😩

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Anonymous

#53 14w

Counterpoint, if your going to bring up men who face domestic violence as a comeback when talking about women facing domestic violence that tells people you don’t actually give a shit about men who face domestic violence. You just want to put down female victims and those trying to defend them. Your mother would be ashamed of you

Anonymous

#1 14w

You're*. You're right that it's a common misinterpretation. Bringing up male victims of domestic violence isn't meant to diminish female victims or serve as a "comeback." Instead, it's about advocating for a complete and equitable understanding of domestic violence.

Anonymous

#53 14w

Suggesting that mentioning male victims lessens the experiences of female victims creates a false dichotomy. Empathy for one group shouldn't be seen as a threat to empathy for another. It's literally you calling the kettle black when all you're doing is flipping the script. Please enough with the baseless arguments and try to use your brain.

Anonymous

#53 14w

Nah, I think I’ll continue to stand by eBay I said as it’s the same thing people do when it comes to pride. June is also men’s mental health month but if you’re going to bring it up when people are talking about pride that tells me you don’t actually care. If someone actually care about men facing domestic violence they should bring it up in a separate post. Also my deepest apologies for my grammar not being up to yikyak standards as English is not my first language.

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Anonymous

#1 14w

*stand by what I said

Anonymous

#1 14w

You are strong-arming and fighting with opinions and that's ok. To each their own. English is not mine either.

Anonymous

#53 14w

Fair enough

Anonymous 14w

Why does it need to be gendered at all then? Wouldn't "why do people hit people?" be an equally helpful question, without creating the controversy and frustration from those who feel like they're being unfairly vilified?

Anonymous

#56 14w

To clarify, I'm not saying that they are necessarily being vilified, but it definitely can feel that way whether it's intended to be directly applicable to you or not

Anonymous 14w

Data backs it up. Domestic violence research. Org is a great place to start.

Anonymous

#56 14w

Men are being directly vilified…. Have you read this thread?

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Anonymous

#53 14w

Where on earth are you getting this information

Anonymous

#57 14w

So in your opinion, using outdated data to represent current trends is your idea of refuting me??? Wow

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Anonymous

#53 14w

Remember that societal perceptions often label reporting certain issues as a man as “weak” or “feminine.” Hence, this stigma leads to a significant number of cases being underreported among men.

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Anonymous 14w

I post-faced my entire assertion by alerting you to underreporting in men. Also, you can go on social media and see that in places like America, women are parading themselves around hitting men, and men are recording the incidents. These are not isolated incidents. There is plenty of anecdotal information to form an informed opinion based on the facts presented. We can wage a statistical war; however, if that's what you want.

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Anonymous 14w

This emphasizes the critical issue of underreporting among men. It's also important to note that discussing this topic might inadvertently isolate victims of domestic violence, which is not my intention. Therefore, I won't continue this conversation; I only sought to elucidate and not invalidate. I only ask that, if you are capable… look at the situation with an objective mind.

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Anonymous

#53 14w

I find it hard to believe your intent was to “elucidate” when in all your comments you include insults to those that disagree with you. It makes you look like an ass

Anonymous

#1 14w

I included insults towards people who disagreed with me in all my comments? Do you have a comprehension issue, or is it me? I just went through and reread my comments, and the only times I remotely "insulted" anyone were in response.

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Anonymous

#53 14w

There you go again

Anonymous 14w

If that's what you got from anything I've said even after I clarified… then go off 🤣

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Anonymous 14w

You're suggesting that only men are responsible for rape and child assault. Please be mindful of your words. You are altering the context of the situation and it seems like you don't care. I honestly pity you, if this is your way of proving a point.

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Anonymous 14w

I didn't bring up men's domestic violence; I simply responded to it. I'm neither inconsiderate nor socially inept. I engaged in the discussion because it was being discussed. I'm not sexist, and I backed up my claims with data and screenshots from peer-reviewed articles. Some of you seem to throw around buzzwords to sound knowledgeable, yet you don't fully grasp the concepts. Narcissistic? What evaluation did you perform to reach that conclusion?

Anonymous

#53 14w

Where is the sexism? Please, quote me.“Peddling fake facts” google is free you insufferable bitch.

Anonymous 14w

Yours been hated you