Anonymous #3 16w

i have so many more but ill just leave it to these for now😭😭

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Anonymous #3 16w

1. i found out when i was diagnosed in the mental hospital aha. i did not accept it at first and thought it wasn’t true, but after about a year of therapy and talking about it, i have accepted it. it was difficult to come to terms with for sure

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Anonymous #3 16w

2. and i’d say a common misconception is that we love ourselves. in my case, and many others, we hate ourselves because we recognize that something we do is wrong but we don’t recognize what or why specifically it’s wrong

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Anonymous #3 16w

i have trouble empathizing with people. i don’t understand why people bring up their own troubles when i am talking about mine, especially when i have not asked about theirs. i don’t handle criticism very well

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Anonymous #3 16w

people also assume people with NPD have to be always grandiose or always vulnerable. in reality it ebbs and flows. there are days where i feel superior than everyone on earth and days where i feel less than dirt

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Anonymous #3 16w

i also struggle with relationships. i tend to think they are way more serious then they are. it isn’t impossible, but it’s harder for me to enter and maintain relationships than it would be for someone without NPD. but that doesn’t mean we are cold and manipulative, some are for sure but it just means we don’t understand interpersonal connections because we have a warped sense of self

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Anonymous OP 16w

THANK U SO MUCH FOR THIS!!! bc of the fact that u dont take criticism well do u think u find urself making excuses or reasons for why the other person would be in the wrong or why what theyre doing makes u right? has therapy helped u catch urself doing this?? i have BPD myself so i kinda relate to u in that aspect where i also have to monitor my mind constantly to make sure its behaving bc a majority of the time its NOT & it 10000% messes w my relationships

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Anonymous #3 16w

tbh ive wondered myself if i have narcissistic traits but idk how to tell bc ive heard ppl say that like if u question it u likely dont but then how do ppl exist who r self-aware like u😭

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Anonymous #3 16w

yes constantly. i have to struggle to not make excuses for what i do, and i do tend to blame others when things go wrong. therapy has helped me recognize when it happens sometimes at least. i feel you about constantly having to monitor my mind, it’s the only way i feel like i don’t betray myself haha

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Anonymous #3 16w

that’s another misconception is that people who have NPD don’t know it. a lot of people don’t know that they have NPD sure, but not all. a self aware person with NPD will understand most, if not all of, their actions, but a lot of self aware NPD people will use this as an excuse for less than savory behavior. myself included sometimes. and just because we know we have NPD, doesn’t guarantee that we are making good changes

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Anonymous OP 16w

when u do decide to make those good changes do u feel like it comes from a place of understanding how ur actions might impact others & changing to try to improve their lives or ur quality of interactions w them or is it more like u realize that making those changes would be a benefit to u? ofc the reasoning may change based on circumstance but just overall do u feel like one motivates u more?

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Anonymous #3 16w

that was a really good & insightful explanation btw im actually gonna take a screenshot & keep in case i run into a situation where i need to remind myself of it later on😭

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