
I believe you that you don’t remember doing it, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that your former friend was obviously very affected by the whole thing. Their feelings are valid, trying to convince them it wasn’t a big deal or wasn’t SA will only hurt your chances of ever having any kind of friendship with them in the future. For now, just give them space.
I’m not trying to convince them it was no big deal I also don’t WANT to be their friend anymore. We had a big falling out after their bf broke up with them (we were a trio friendgroup) and they’re only telling ppl this now. I’m really just upset that they waited to tell me this until AGTER the friendship was over it feels like they don’t actually feel this way and just want to hurt me (I’ve been SAd in the past and they’ve been saying “cycle of abuse”) bc we were completely cool before this
I asked them once I sobered up if I did anything that upset them and they told me that it happened but they were ok with it in the moment and just no longer wanted it to happen. I agreed to never to it again and asked if we were cool, they said yes. It’s now been about a mnth&1/2 and they’re seemingly only talking abt it now bc our friendship ended on bad terms when I took their ex’s side in a breakup