Anonymous #1 15w

My sibling is the one that’s not out, my husband is out to most people aside from his work and his family just chooses to ignore that he’s out. My sibling deadnames him unless I’m around because they know I’ll tell them to knock it off and my husband won’t tell them to because he doesn’t want to make them mad and he’s used to being deadnamed

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Anonymous #1 15w

My siblings reason for thinking that it’s okay is that they “are constantly deadnamed” but they haven’t told anyone their name except me, so no one knows to not deadname them yet. I told them they could either tell their friends or suffer in silence because there is no other option here

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Anonymous #1 15w

For the record, I understand them not being ready to tell everyone, I’m not saying they have to. I am saying they can’t get mad at being deadnamed when that’s the only name anyone knows. I didn’t want to tell my own friends my name when I was changing it simply because I was worried about them thinking it was stupid or thinking I’m doing it for attention or something, but I managed to tell two of them, and then I was sending them videos of me with them titled as “Entry # - Name”

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Anonymous OP 15w

Others have either picked it up or been informed, next year when I meet new people at college, I’ll tell them my name instead of my deadname. I understand my sibling being scared or nervous, I do not understand them using it as an excuse to deadname and misgender my husband

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Anonymous OP 15w

Ohh I see yeah that’s so weird to deadname someone just because you’re being deadnamed yourself

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