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How do y’all differentiate from wishing you were the other gender and actually being trans? Like I’m a male and don’t hate my existence, but I regularly think about being a woman and feel like I missed out on that “lottery.” Idk if I phrased that well ngl
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Anonymous 1w

Ask yourself would you truly rather be a man or a woman?

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Anonymous 1w

non-trans people typically don't wish they were a different gender

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Anonymous 1w

for me it was, did being called the pronouns and being perceived by people (only people close to me at first) as the gender i wanted make me happy? at first i thought i was transmasc and that didn’t make me happy but being perceived as neither gender (nonbinary) made me really happy, not just temporary because both were new and exciting at some point, but for longer

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Anonymous 1w

we don't. they imply eachother.

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Anonymous 1w

i'm ngl, there is absolutely no way to differentiate between someone who just wants to be a girl and someone who is actually a girl. like. the way to actually be a girl is to want to be (that's why it didn't work for me lol. i did nooooooot want to be there). so maybe that's where you're falling, and you're having trouble embracing that?

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Anonymous 3d

I don’t base my gender off of being uncomfortable or unsatisfied with my gender assigned at birth, but rather the joy from being a guy. I don’t have a lot of dysphoria, and some people get stuck in the “if no dysphoria, then no trans” but it’s about gender euphoria. Being a guy just makes me happier than being a girl. Not that being a girl sucks, it’s just not me. Idk if that makes sense

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Anonymous 1w

Youre a girl :D

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Yeah I’ve asked myself that many times and I get woman like every time. I guess it’s just me trying to justify if that makes me trans or just envious lol. I’m probably overthinking it tbh but it’s a mental roadblock. Like cool, that’s what I want, but maybe it’s just not the way the cookie crumbled.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I won’t lie, you might be trans. I had this debate with myself for years and years. When I finally came out I started to feel free, like I wasn’t pretending anymore

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Super fair, sometimes it feels like I’m trying to justify something that just doesn’t really need to be

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Was there anything specific that got you over the hump?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

T(x): x person is trans W(x): x person wishes they were a different gender P: the set of all people. ∀x ∈ P (W(x) → T(x))

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

you don't have to need to be a different gender. hell, i'm trans and could probably live pretending to be cis. you just have to think it would be better than you currently are.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah lol, I was going to a dance in a suit and my friend called me out and said “you’d rather be in a dress” and I said yes. After that I starting slowly accepting myself and coming out

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Good point thanks. Like in general I’m pretty apathetic and unattached to the fact I’m a dude tbh. Not a hatred but just an “ehh wtvr.” But if I could happier or even proud as a woman, it’s a net gain.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Oh wow haha. I think that slow acceptance of like, yeah, this is who I am and I should stop trying to mask it or even try to ignore it is a big step

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Yeah I learned that later than I should have probably 😵‍💫

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

1. did i feel happy? 2. did i feel seen? like did i feel like the pronouns and gender reflect me and how i wanted to be perceived and acknowledged?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

That’s a good way to look at it. I haven’t really ever been referred to with feminine pronouns so I can’t really speak to that, being complimented with traditionally feminine verbiage always made me feel a lot happier than being called “handsome” and whatnot. While I’d appreciate the compliment, I’d rather someone notice my “pretty eyes” haha

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

Yeah I guess so, it is sorta hard to embrace that part which kinda leads to the thoughts of it just being a pipe dream rather than a potential reality

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

i'm even more ngl, that is almost exactly what i thought (and still do think, but only in exceptionally bad moments) before i transitioned. "god i wish i could be a boy"

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6d

Thx 😊

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3d

Yeah it definitely makes sense! I’m glad to hear that someone else feels the similarly. It’s not a hatred just a dissonance.

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