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Trans Talk 17w
do any other trans men or transmasc individuals feel somewhat neurotic or paranoid (unsure how to describe or properly place this feeling) about being seen as a lesbian/sapphic/butch or seen as inherently close to these identities
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Anonymous 17w

ya I do because I am a binary trans man. those labels don’t apply to me in any way, and it would be disingenuous to describe me in that way. passing as stealth is important to me, so I personally don’t want to associate myself with those labels at all

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Anonymous 17w

It’s not paranoia, they literally think I am a masc lesbian 😔

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Anonymous 17w

Yes, especially as someone who’s a binary trans man but pre-t so I get clocked like a girl, I don’t like the idea of me liking someone fem or a girl to be construed with being a lesbian - and I hate being viewed as a butch or masc when I simply am not. Over time honestly it’s caused me to lean closer to identifying as mlm instead of bi because this association isn’t affirming

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Anonymous 17w

Yeah and every time I complain about it I get chastised about THE HISTORY OF LESBIANISM and he him lesbians and how it’s actually fine that these women are almost encouraged by other lesbians to view trans men as Butch+, or man-lite.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17w

Several failed connections later

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Anonymous replying to -> schadenfreude 17w

I almost downvoted, and then i thought about it, and I realized, wait, why DO cis lesbians put so much focus on trans ppl’s bodies? Like I had a friend I don’t speak to as much anymore since I started T and it was all because she said smth about a crush she had and ended with “but she was trans so 🤷🏼‍♀️” and my heart shattered in two

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17w

Like she was attracted to her all this time and suddenly she finds out “it comes with a penis” (not her words, just how I feel it sounded) just grossed me tf out. Like if someone did that to me I’d be pissed asf. Like damn, you want dick, you’ll ride a silicone one, but a prosthetic is too much? Yeah ok. Get over urself I’ll find someone else.

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