Anonymous #1 12w

yesss she misgendered me once BUT corrected herself (my hair was tied back so that probably hurt my perception when we met)

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Anonymous #3 12w

we talked about communication management the day of so it’ll be fine. worst case scenario i can title ix her but i don’t feel necessary for that to happen. i also talked about my worries and she said it’s fine. we had a guy in the other suite which is intentional so she absolutely is capable of living with genders across the spectrum

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Anonymous OP 12w

also the whole friend group is like mostly poc? but all 3 of us using the bathroom are the same ethnicity. we also yapped for 2-3h i don’t think that can be faked

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Anonymous OP 12w

that’s amazing dude i’m super happy for you, but a lot of times when we find community we trust too fast. I promise you a 2-3 hour yap session is not enough to know their intentions and feelings towards you, especially in a setting they cannot change. I’m not tryna make you scared, but i wish someone would’ve said it to me and i know a lot of ppl who feel the same so i just wanted to make sure you’re like aware

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Anonymous OP 12w

gah that sounds really nice honestly, i think im in a similar boat to you (raised catholic and don’t really believe anymore but would be down to go to church sometime) and id love a chill catholic roommate to go to mass with :3

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Anonymous #4 12w

i’m also a catholic trans guy and i’m afraid that hasn’t always been my experience in my community (both my church and extended family are vaguely to blatantly anti-lgbtq+) i am very glad to hear that you’ve had good experiences though!! just that not all catholics are chill, though not all are condemning either

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Anonymous #5 12w

i was raised catholic and though the kids were like that for the most part, the adults absolutely were not but it’s been a while since i’ve interacted with someone of religion to this level

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Anonymous OP 12w

“like that” referring to acceptance

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Anonymous #3 12w

hey no worries! i absolutely get that and if something happens ill just title ix her. its no biggie but rn she seems sweet and i want to take her at face value! she’s also explained her hesitancies with having a new roommate in general (especially with the context of how her suite was initially set up) but im very glad she was on board with the idea after we talked about housing arrangements and whatnot

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Anonymous OP 12w

so given that i have had bad experiences i did want to just make sure that she was okay with the setup and whatnot

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Anonymous #3 6w

hi update on this :) she’s probably transphobic since she left the room. she was sleeping in a different room beforehand. she never said anything outright so it is what it is. i got new suitemates though :) and they’re very friendly towards me and lgbtq+

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Anonymous OP 6w

i’m glad, i hate to see it happen to another one of us but it’s kinda canon event atp

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Anonymous #3 6w

i guess technically this was the worst case scenario. if she had been outwardly transphobic it would have been easier to title ix her

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Anonymous #3 6w

on the plus side!!! i have a dorm that i can let friends stay in and it’s partially decorated because of my old roomie soooo <3

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Anonymous OP 6w

same shit happened to me

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Anonymous OP 6w

stay up and stay safe i’m glad it worked out in the end

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