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i’m ftm and i’m not out to my family yet, my brothers girlfriend just soft launched me possibly being a bridesmaid at their wedding i want to cry
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Anonymous 1d

im sorry :( moments of connection like that which could be sweet are tainted by that horrible gut feeling of dysphoria

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Anonymous 1d

Def talk to them about possibly wearing a suit if that’s what you’d rather, ik either way the misgendering that comes with that sucks, but that could help you feel a bit better.

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Anonymous 1d

would you rather be a groomsman or just not part of the wedding party? there’s time before the wedding to come out and/or you can tell them you love them but don’t have the capacity to fill that role for them rn

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

honestly “pressure point” situations like this are pretty common to be what pushes people to the next phase of their transition

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

thank you i’m just nervous apart of me feels like if i do ill be “ruining” the wedding and making it about me

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

i 100% would rather be a groomsman it’s also hard because it’s my brother who is getting married so regardless of my gender i’d rather be on his side not his girlfriends. i feel like im only being asked because i have three older brothers who will all be groomsmen

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

You are just wanting to be comfortable at an event celebrating your sibling. If someone says that tell them you just want to be happy for your brother rather than upset and suffering at their wedding.

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