Anonymous #1 14h

I recc first trying things with presentation (e.g. name, pronouns, clothes, haircut etc) since they’re much simpler than figuring out your internal identity right away. you can always identify as “genderqueer” & engage in multiple spaces before you stick with any one framework

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Anonymous #1 14h

that said, educating yourself on what you *can* be & do is really important at this stage. for resources, I recc The Gender Book (free if you look up “The Gender Book Gumroad”) & look at the Trevor Project’s resources page—the “ally to trans & nonbinary” one is actually really good as a starter, since it covers a lot of basic info

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Anonymous #1 14h

What do I do if I’m so insecure about it that there’s really nowhere i feel comfortable doing any of that..

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Anonymous OP 14h

I felt like this at first, to the point that I didn’t even want to change my pronouns in an anonymous online space… so I tried it with myself, first. iirc I wrote a journal entry addressed to myself, talking in the third person. it felt weird and kind of cringe, but that’s what I was comfortable with, and it helped me get more comfortable with thinking of myself as not-a-guy

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Anonymous #1 14h

That sounds possible, thank you. If its alright to ask, are you on hrt? At what point does hrt sound like the right option?

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Anonymous OP 14h

I’m on HRT, yeah (2.5 years now). getting it safely & affordably heavily depends on your circumstances, but the first (obvious) step is knowing if you want it. for me, I made a list of pros/cons for the bodily changes & decided that the cons were vastly outweighed by the pros, even as a non-binary person who didn’t want some of the changes

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Anonymous #1 14h

and mind you, if you think you might want HRT, it’s a good idea to get yourself in the position to start it (i.e. researching it & potential providers & how you can pay for it). it makes it a lot more realistic

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Anonymous #1 14h

That makes sense, i think pretty soon I’ll actually mention all this to my current therapist and see what my options are

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