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how do I knock the intrusive thought that ive had dysphoria since I was 12 and that I should have known and should have gotten on hrt sooner

Anonymous 13w

what's done is done, can't change the past so there's no point lamenting it

Anonymous 13w

I feel u. I started hrt at 18 and because i’m truly a dumbass I was accidentally taking a tenth of what i was supposed to, so it obviously did nothing. so I stopped and didn’t try again till I was 23. it sucks but I just try to forget about it cuz like what’s the point? I’m just focusing on what I can do now, like taking my hrt consistently and saving money for surgeries

Anonymous

#1 13w

people say that and all it sounds like to me is "yeah you fucked yourself, shoulda known earlier but you didnt so get bent"

Anonymous

OP 13w

No it just means what it says, that you can’t change things that have already happened. We all have regrets or things we wish we had done/known but the only thing you can change is the future/present so it’s not worth wasting energy on the past when you can put that towards accomplishing what you want to and living the rest of your life the best way you can. Maybe you didn’t start HRT when you would have wanted but the second best time to take action is today

Anonymous

#2 13w

"It means what it says, you did fuck yourself but you can have a consolation prize ig"

Anonymous

OP 13w

no, I mean that I've spent a lot of time beating myself up for things that happened in the past, and did it fix those things??? no, it just made me feel like shit. so instead of beating yourself up over some mistake, just do what you can now to make yourself happy

Anonymous

OP 13w

You are deliberately projecting on to it, that’s clearly not what it says or means

Anonymous

#2 13w

oh my bad, i forgot that "your life is worse because you didnt transition earlier" doesnt mean the same as "your life is worse because you didnt transition earlier", silly me

Anonymous

OP 13w

that's not what I said. You aren't omniscient, and hindsight is always 20/20, so obviously you see the signs now, but its unfair to punish yourself now for not immediately recognizing exactly what you were feeling at a 12 year old. 12 year olds are dumbasses, also it's not like you could've started hrt at 12, as most you could've gone on puberty blockers but like... best you could've done was just like grow out hair and change clothing. stop beating yourself up, it's a waste of energy

Anonymous

OP 13w

“You can’t change the past” doesn’t mean “your life is worse because you didn’t transition earlier” — notice how there are different words being used in each quote. Not transitioning at 12 doesn’t mean your life will be worse. I transitioned in college and my life is great. All people are saying is that there is no point in spending energy on things you don’t have any control over, especially when that energy can go to making the changes you want in the present.