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Trans Talk 16w
I posted here a couple of months ago about detransitioning for the sake of my family relationships. You delightful people all talked me down thankfully, but unfortunately it’s looking like that’s what I’m going to have to do.
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Anonymous 16w

My hope is that the misery I feel in doing this will be enough to prove to my parents that I need gender affirmation.

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Anonymous 16w

I found some ideas in the online article “Don’t Let Your Parents Disapproval Derail Your Dreams (by Ron Carucci),” really helpful for changing the dynamic with my parents when it came to trans stuff. specifically under the subheadings “resist defending your viewpoint” and “dig for deeper anxieties”.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

It won’t. They’ll never be satisfied. This is a trap. They’ll ignore your misery because it’s not about your happiness. It’s about their comfort. They don’t care about you. If they did, they would support you. This is all a trick to minimize the thing that’s making them uncomfortable. All detransitioning is going to do is make you more likely to go for the rope, OP

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Anonymous replying to -> working_tgirl 16w

And then when you do, your parents will whine and cry that “they don’t know why [deadname] would do this to us!” You are being deceived

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

your happiness from transitioning should be what makes them realize you needed it, not your misery from detransitioning. sacrificing your happiness for other’s comfort is bs. be a little selfish, they’re capable of dealing with it

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Anonymous replying to -> working_tgirl 16w

They do not think particularly highly of me and always think that I will regret any life decision I make because I’m naive and sheltered. That’s why I feel this way. Because if I show them I need to make a decision then maybe they’ll finally believe me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I hate myself specifically because how stupid I feel and it always makes me feel like I’ll never be able to progress because no matter what I’ll never know enough

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I already want to “go for the rope”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

That’s on purpose. They call you naive and sheltered as a way to infantilize you, get you to mistrust yourself, and therefore be dependent on them. It’s not about the truth. It’s about control. You are being abused

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Anonymous replying to -> working_tgirl 16w

Helped my husband through this when he and I first got together

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Anonymous replying to -> working_tgirl 16w

Thank you, and I’m sorry for burdening you with my dumb childish melodrama.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

You’re fine, honey. Just, go be who you are. You’ll be happier for it

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