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Trans Talk 9w
I had a roommate freshman year and she was a decent girl, nice enough, but she didn’t really know very much about trans folk, which that’s fine, not knowing and being willing to learn is completely fine, and she was completely willing to learn except
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Anonymous 9w

I kept having to explain to her that I’m not going to tell her peoples deadnames. No I don’t know their name, no I don’t want to know it, no I don’t care about it, yes I do forget pretty quickly after learning them, yes I do go out of my way to never learn them, no I’m not telling you the ones I do remember. It was just a really hard concept for her to grasp for some reason? I forget my own husband’s deadname half the time, and I’ve been friends with him since we were nine.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Many cis people around me also seem to struggle to grasp this

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

I just don’t understand what’s so hard about it, like they don’t go by that name anymore, and it actively hurts some of their feelings to use it so just don’t?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

Yk I'm a really nosy person and will sometimes ask very invasive questions but somehow deadnames aren’t at all interesting to me. Like they just say nothing about you. I've never been interested. If someone has a funny story involving their deadname they bring it up on their own & I never remember it. The story's way more important than the name. Now tell me every detail about your elementary school rival

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