Anonymous #1 1d

yeah I think OP feels like a creep because (idk pronouns, sorry) their brain is trying to justify the consistent loneliness they feel by telling OP it’s their fault instead of it being a shitty situation that they happen to be in

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Anonymous #2 1d

(so no OP, you aren’t a creep, it’s just your brain trying to come up with reasons for why you feel bad. it’s easy to assume you’re feeling bad because YOU are bad, but I doubt that’s the case)

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Anonymous #1 1d

so i cant speak to lgbt spaces specifically (i didnt go to any bc i was repressing all of last year before i caved and ordered diy e right before the semester ended), but im generally incredibly socially awkward, and going to a lgbt group would feel like saying "hi im an ugly man please treat me like a woman" (ik thats probably transphobic to think so sorry)

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Anonymous #2 1d

it kind of is my fault though, ive consistently rejected every opprotunity to socialize because im too awkward to act normally, and im barely even trans in the first place. i cant see myself as a woman 80% of the time and more hate being a man than i want to be a woman. i feel like im appropriating being trans and its just a fetish for me. idk why im like this

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Anonymous #2 1d

also any pronouns work

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Anonymous OP 1d

youre a woman, you just have a lot of internalized transphobia and self hatred. making friends with other autistic trans girls is your best bet. start out online maybe?

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Anonymous #3 1d

im aware i have a ton of internalized transphobia and self hatred, i just have no idea how to fix that lol ive talked to a lot of autistic trans girls on places like discord but i never know how to take it from a person im friendly with to like actual friends

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Anonymous OP 1d

I’ve been friendly with trans girls/genderqueer tfems on discord and it genuinely pains me to see them pull back because they’re scared of fumbling. I had one person stop messaging me entirely after saying “I think I’ll just delete discord” because she said she was “being too cringe.” you cant learn how to be friends with people w/o experimenting. it really sucks when you mess up, but most people will be fine as long as you keep an open mind & let yourself take criticism w/o taking it personally

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Anonymous #2 1d

(I mention that last bit since that’s been my main struggle in the years since I’ve realized I was trans. I get defensive about things and feel the need to justify why I’m at where I’m at instead of admitting I was wrong and just asking for help)

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