Trans Talk on Yik Yak | how can I be proud of being trans? I always feel so much shame and disgust telling people I'm trans. does anyone have advice on how to just be proud and open about it?

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how can I be proud of being trans? I always feel so much shame and disgust telling people I'm trans. does anyone have advice on how to just be proud and open about it?

Anonymous 5d

I like to treat my pride as a sieve. I’m mtf, and I can’t pass for shit. But I find myself beautiful, I know others find me beautiful, and if I keep walking through rooms chin up chest out, proud as hell, the people who respect me will gather to me and the people who don’t will avoid me. You cannot impress everyone, but ask yourself who exactly is worth impressing?

Anonymous 5d

I get a lot out of being in communities where trans people are celebrated by each other. Including people being super horny about it lol, it’s done wonders for my self esteem. Also I really like studying queer and trans history to feel a sense of connection to our queer ancestors since we lack so much of that history in our own day to day lives.

Anonymous 5d

it takes time. at the beginning of my transition i was horribly ashamed of it. i barely interacted with other trans people and i wanted more than anything to be stealth. now that i’ve been passing consistently for a couple years, I’ve realized that when I interact with other trans ppl, I Want them to know that I’m trans. it’s a gradual process and there are definitely situations where it’s safer to not be open about it, so don’t beat yourself up when it’s hard.

Anonymous

#1 5d

I guess the most important thing I’m trying to stress is this: If you feel disgusting telling people you’re trans, you’re telling the wrong people you’re trans. It’s such a beautiful thing we’ve done, you know, and if someone can’t appreciate the inherent beauty of being trans, theeeeeeeeeeeen they can fuck themselves!

Anonymous

#2 5d

but how do I even get there? I feel so uncomfortable around other trans people. I didn't even bring my flag with me to my dorm because I just can't stand looking at it. there's a lot of trans positive spaces here but I can't bring myself to join them

Anonymous

OP 5d

That’s very fair and I don’t totally know how to help with that in particular. It might be worth scrolling the trans sex advice group, though, it’s mostly just trans people being super horny about other trans people and it’s both hot and very affirming.

Anonymous

#3 5d

for me it also helped to read autobiographies and diaries, and see how my experiences are similar and different to trans people of the past. Making trans friends helps, too. there’s a sort of, “would i want my friend to feel the same way I do about myself? If i don’t feel this way about their being trans, why should i feel it for myself?”

Anonymous

#3 5d

idk if you’re mtf or ftm but i can recommend some media and i’m sure others can too!

Anonymous

#3 5d

thank you, I'm ftm and I have a few ftm friends (some know, some don't). it's helped to engage in the trans communities online, since I can be anonymous that way. media is probably the next step for me

Anonymous

#2 5d

I tried this and it did actually help somewhat, thank you! seeing other trans people being happy and proud while also having the choice to be anonymous when engaging with it is really nice

Anonymous

OP 5d

stone butch blues was a total paradigm shift. shows how synonymous being butch and being trans used to be! whipping girl is more focused on mtf experiences but there are plenty of takeaways for trans men too. a chapter that really put into context my experiences with medical gatekeeping. for a vintage webcomic check out venus envy! it shows its age but is a fun little high school story with a ftm MC who’s one of my favs. lou sullivan’s diaries are fantastic (nsfw) (we both laughed in pleasure)

Anonymous

OP 5d

Yay I’m so glad!!