(2) This happened months ago, but recently, at the start of the semester, i made the decision to change my name in my schools online platforms ( didn’t tell a soul just kinda did it). Some of my friends from hs know now, because they straight up asked me since they’ve seen me struggling with my identity in the past ( roommate does not know this)

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(3) But my roommate still doesn’t know. Its been months, but he just hasn’t asked and i’m too nervous to tell him because i don’t wanna mess it up like i did before. The longer i wait the worse it gets though because i know he’ll be hurt that i kept it from him. Also for context, we see each-other every day, get food together every day, and spend almost all of our free time together. So i feel extremely guilty not telling him😭 If anyone actually reads all of this any advice would be great

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(1) When i told him this though, i couldn’t get the words out quite right and i ended up dancing around what i wanted to say due to anxiety. (i’ve had really bad coming out experiences in the past) So he ended up being really dry/ unresponsive/ seemingly annoyed with me for not being able to say it right? idk, so i just never brought it up again

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You seem close and I’m sure if you just talk to him it will go fine. You haven’t done anything wrong coming out is hard, you have nothing to feel bad about. If it helps write out what you want to say beforehand and practice a bit. I think you should tell him when you’re comfortable and you shouldn’t feel guilty basically.

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i’m sure he will be fully supportive, but i get the feeling you’re more worried about not being able to fully express yourself, and for that i might suggest coming out and explaining what you want to say via text? it might not be the best advice but that’s what i did with my friends, because even though they’re all queer and very supportive i was also incredibly anxious and struggling to express myself. you could always talk after you send the text too so you’re still talking in person with him!

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If he makes you feel bad about it thats his problem

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