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How do I tell my roommate I’m trans. What if they don’t want to room with me anymore?
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Anonymous 5w

i would honestly just sit them down and go for it (if you feel comfortable), explain that this is how you identify and that you care about how they feel? that’s how i did it with my suitemates last year and they ended up being really supportive. i also dunno ur exact situation but i hope this was helpful nonetheless :3

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Anonymous 5w

if it helps break the ice, spend like a month dressing in progressively more gender affirming clothes in and around home. after a while they’ll find it more awkward if you didn’t come out as trans

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Anonymous 5w

if it’s hard for you, you can tell them in pieces over time. might start as presenting how you want to around them. and eventually maybe tell them your new name or pronouns. doesn’t have to be in that order! whatever you’re most comfortable with first, tell them when you’re ready. and you don’t have to have an explanation or anything.

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Anonymous 5w

Is this a new roommate or a roommate you’ve had for a while and are close with?

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Anonymous 5w

You don’t have to tell them you’re trans

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

also i wish you luck! coming out to roommates is scary as shit i hope all goes well!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

Been friends for awhile, been roommates only for a few months now

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Thank you. That was really helpful, I wouldn’t have thought of to tell her that I care how she feels even though it’s true

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

Ofc I don’t have to, but I need to for me, because they’ll know anyway once I start to transition, and I’d rather not be anxious about it which is why I asked.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

i’m really happy i could offer good advice :3 i hope all goes well, and remember to prioritize yourself fr

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

My b, I thought you already transitioned 🙏 go for it

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

Thanks :)

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