Anonymous #1 11h

i dont think repressing is a good idea most of the stuff im talking about is stuff present pre transition too, the only difference is now im trying to do something with my life instead of rotting in my room so my self loathing is intensified

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Anonymous OP 11h

If your dysphoria is moderate and you value your body often, it might be a well-chosen long-term decision. My family knows I crossdress, so it’s not like I’m doing it in secret. I find great utility in my male body, even if I would prefer to be a woman. But yeah if your dysphoria is bad and not just like moderate repping is usually a bad strategy, but if it’s moderate, then I see potential in it.

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Anonymous #1 9h

If you’d prefer to be a woman, then I think maybe your quality of life would go up if you transitioned, no? I’m not saying we’re the same, but I thought that it would just feel hard forever, I wore a wig for a full year and it made me feel so fake. But I’ve been on hormones for a while, and the shittiness of life and dysphoria is greatly diminished by how much euphoria I feel every day! You said you’d prefer to be a woman, you can! You are! It just takes time. I hope this doesn’t come across bad

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Anonymous #2 9h

Nah it’s fine. I don’t know if I really believe all that “you’re already a woman!” stuff, but yeah. Still value my male body, it’s nice and useful. Sure, it would be nice to be a woman, but I’d never actually be a real woman, or at least what I’d actually want. At least the dressing allows me the nice male form when needed. And I have been lifting weights and lost weight, I’m looking better.

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Anonymous #1 9h

Why wouldn’t you ever be a real woman?

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Anonymous #2 9h

I mean I’m not gonna sugar coat it, I’d be a tall trans woman, not a cis woman. I want to be a cis woman. Perhaps being tall man is better than being a tall trans woman.

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Anonymous #1 9h

I’m tall too and pass just fine, I never really thought I would but you’d be surprised how much HRT and electrolysis can do (and even if you don’t medically transition, just hair, clothes, and maybe makeup are enough for a lot of people)

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Anonymous #1 9h

I’m also tall, and there’s cis women taller than me. The tallest woman rn is 7 feet and she’s cis! Now that I pass I get comments about modelling all the time! I get it about not wanting to be trans though. It’s being in a club that’s only semi-part of another club. And I just want to have always been a girl. But if you wish to be a girl and never transition I’m not sure it’d be much easier. There are ppl in my life who don’t know I’m trans. It’s possible to get there and just be a woman

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Anonymous #1 9h

I kinda resigned myself to crossdressing/being a femboy for a while, but I realized I wanted more than that. I thought I was happy with my body because it was functional and I looked good as a guy, but I realized I’d rather look like crap as a girl than look great as a guy

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Anonymous #1 9h

and yeah, I wish I was born a cis women a lot of the time. I do really hate my height, but at this point it’s really just a me thing. I seem to be the only one to care about it anymore, which strikes me as super strange since that was the main reason I didn’t want to transition. I’ve even started wearing platformed boots, and (almost paradoxically) it’s made me feel better about my height 😭

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Anonymous #2 9h

Yeah it’s possible. That’s why I am seriously considering it and have researched hormones. Still, my male form has its uses. And I want a wife and a family someday, which would be exponentially harder if I was a trans woman. It is all possible though. My dysphoria is mild enough it might just not be worth the costs though.

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Anonymous #3 9h

I don’t know if that applies to me though. I think I’d probably rather look better as a guy. Sure, it would be nice to be a beautiful woman, but you know.

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Anonymous #3 9h

Still don’t know if it’s worth it. Might just be better to be a cross dresser.

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Anonymous #1 9h

I’m kinda shocked because a lot of what you’ve said sounds like my own thoughts pre-transition 😭 I didn’t think I had much dysphoria (and I didn’t, and still don’t), but I got SO much euphoria not just dressing how I wanted by also being seen how I wanted. my life got so much better, not because pain got alleviated but because I went from treating my body as functional/“good enough” to grinning uncontrollably whenever I saw myself in pictures

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Anonymous #1 9h

it’s your body and your life, and we are two different people. I share my experience so you know how a transitioned person in a similar situation felt & now feels in case it resonates with you. regardless of where you end up, I hope you’re happy :)

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Anonymous #3 9h

Thanks. Just trying to figure this out. Want to avoid medical changes if possible, but you know.

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Anonymous #1 9h

true, but there are low barriers to entry on things like certain pronouns with trusted friends or being active in trans spaces! if you find out you like it, you work with it until you’re happy where you’re at; if you don’t like it, then you go back to where you were before, knowing with certainty that’s where you should be

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Anonymous #1 9h

of course, I think most people socially transition before considering medical transition. don’t feel rushed! you can ignore medical transition and even coming out irl; a lot of people socially transition online or with their friends & don’t go beyond that. there’s levels to this, so don’t worry about it being all or nothing :p

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