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when people talk abt “genital preferences” they normally mean “genital incompatibility” and imo calling it a preference is reductive and misleading as fuck. if I’m incompatible with someone I find attractive I’m so disappointed but my desire’s still there
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when people talk abt it like a preference, it implies it affects your attraction on an emotional level, but ime that’s not the case at all?? when I find out I’m incompatible with someone I’m crushing on, I STILL LIKE THEM. I have to get over the crush before that goes away. same thing with people with different life goals or who’re going to be long-distance or who aren’t attracted to me.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

it’s a genital incompatibility since incompatibilities are normally intangible and don’t affect your attraction to someone on an emotional level. unless you’ve seen someone naked, it IS intangible. my feelings don’t go away immediately: I have to grieve the potential relationship. when people talk about genital preference, it always sounds like a “my attraction turned off for you” thing when it’s NEVER been that for me. the “preference” language will always feel misleading and reductive for me.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

also, this is NOT an argument for/against what most people call a genital incompatibilities, and this is not a space to argue about them, either. I’ve had this thought for a bit and just wanted to share to see if anyone else resonated with it.

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