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Trans Talk 1d
Venting about sex related stuff below just not putting it here in case people are uncomfortable
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Anonymous 1d

I’m realizing now that my ex who I broke up with recently really did a lot to make me more insecure about my body. Because of this person I have a lot of sexual anxiety and dysphoria. I’ll never get to have a good first time of whatever again cause I did it with her. And it makes me so nervous to try to pursue new stuff because im worried about it being like her again. Like I would feel more sexually confident if I was a virgin.

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Anonymous 1d

Yeah i have a similar but different experience with a bad ex. She would make fun of me for the way I danced, for my identity, and for my emotional challenges and insecurities. That experience made me more withdrawn and stuff and Ive never danced since. I haven’t talked to my high school friends since high school cuz she was in that group too which is a bummer

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Anonymous 22h

Things like this will help you appreciate more the person who comes along and treats you better

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

It’s kinda isolating me socially too from my previous friend group because she’s there. I’m trying to sort of ingratiate myself I guess with a way more affirming friend group but it’s difficult to befriend people. I also have a crush who I wanna ask out but I’m very afraid because of these insecurities

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

My experience differs from yours in that the fact ive ever had a girlfriend makes me more confident in perusing partners, and it makes me excited to have good partners. I have less sexual anxiety than I would have otherwise.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

It really sucks people do that stuff. Hope you find someone who sees you for you. Dancing is cool.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

I ended up not wanting to go into it when I typed the original message but she also physically hurt me during sex which contributes a lot to the specific way I feel.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21h

it's sad how common this is. my first boyfriend would also make fun of me for a lot of things, including the way I run. I used to enjoy playing soccer but now I don't because I'm anxious that I'm running "like a gremlin" as he would say

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