Trans guys that were part of the lesbian community prior to coming out that still feel connected to the label. Wasn’t this post made less than a month ago?

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I have an ftm lesbian friend and he says it’s because he doesn’t fully identify with being a man, but that “man“ is the best-fit term for him. As in, he’s a man to himself and everyone else in every situation except for a relationship. He wants to be treated and be seen as something other than a man (closer to agender iirc) while interacting with his partner. I think that might involve some pronoun and gendered noun stuff but it’s more about dynamic.

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There's a lot to talk about. Lesbianism has more than one aspect. Like other parts of LGBTQ+ culture, there's an entire community of support based around people with similar experiences, and lesbians specifically have a history of butch/fem stuff going on that historically overlaps heavily with trans men & transmasc people. There's also an implicit assumption here that the person passes or will pass, which isn’t always the case.

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From what I’ve heard from he/him lesbians I know it’s that there’s a lot of baggage associated with being straight. Straight means not in the queer umbrella. Straight means loving in a straight way, which isn’t inherently harmful but also isn’t accurate to the way one might love. If that makes any sense…

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