tmi incoming me and my bf are both trans guys. we do oral, and basically suck clit just like a little dick. and also use fingering and strap and vibrators. also we use anatomy terms that make us feel good, like calling a clitoris a cock etc. open communication is key. just try to focus on having fun, there’s no pressure to already know what to do. especially in the beginning it’s normal for any couple to slowly figure out what each other likes.