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Trans Talk 7w
Ugh I’n so indecisive and want some input. For context I’m 21 MtF and she said she wouldn’t want to marry me if I transition. I’m indecisive bc we’re lowkey codependent 🥺
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Transition and let relationship end
Stay as is!
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Anonymous 7w

if she wouldn’t want to marry you if you transition then she straight-up just doesn’t want to marry *you* 😭 it’s not gonna work out even if you don’t transition, especially now that you’ve accepted

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Anonymous 7w

Even more context! She’s supportive of me but she doesn’t want to get married to a woman. Like she’s not being mean about it but she has her preferences if that makes sense

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Anonymous 7w

girlllllll you gotta get outta there

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Anonymous 7w

UPDATE: We’re breaking up as we speak. We’re breaking up on good terms so I’ll be starting HRT as soon as possible. Thanks for everyone who voted!

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Anonymous 7w

31-0 btw

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Anonymous 7w

Little update: So this might be a huge mistake but I genuinely couldn’t let the relationship end. I’m just not gonna transition and hope that maybe I get a second chance in another life

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Ouch that hurts a bit but that’s something I haven’t thought about before

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

I had to go through something similar with someone I really loved but he loved me for the woman he saw and not for me… it sucks, SO bad, but you ARE a woman, and she doesn’t date those. it hurts like hell getting through that denial, but the square doesn’t go in the circle hole. you two have an incompatibility that you can’t work through, and it’s better to come to terms with that than hurting both of yourselves by ignoring it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

I’m really glad she’s supportive—my person was trans himself—since that should mean it’s not going to be a messy break-up. it’s going to be painful, but you can still hold on to those memories and know that you’re lovable.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Idk i have a meeting tomorrow with my therapist where I’m going to talk things out and see if I can figure out what I want to do. Part of me believes I can be happy either way but it’s still worrying

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

definitely talk with your therapist before making any big decisions. wishing you luck :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Thank you!!! I appreciate it so much

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Good news is that her parents said they wouldn’t out me to mine! Boymode for the win lol

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Anonymous replying to -> emmeline 7w

Lol fair enough I just wanted some input!

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Anonymous replying to -> emmeline 7w

46-0 now lmfao

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

Almost 67-0

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

like it's okay if she's not gay, but that's something that means you all are incompatible, as much as you care about each other

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

we'll be here for you if you'd like to stick around

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

I have never heard of this working out 😭 I wish you the best even if I don’t think this is the best for you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

I’m not sure it is either but i feel trapped

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