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Trans Talk 5w
I completely understand why we argue that we’re still the same people before and after transition. It puts loved ones at ease. But I don’t believe this about myself. I have nothing but contempt for my pre transition self and feel like a different person.
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Anonymous 5w

I long for a world where he never existed and took so much of my life from me

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Anonymous 5w

I get feeling like a different person, but may I ask why you feel contempt for your pretransition self?

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Anonymous 5w

I suppose that’s fair. I’ve always seen myself as the same personally. Like sure I’ve changed but I’m still just me

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Anonymous 5w

honestly i totally get that. it’s not the case for me but i can see how someone would feel that way

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I think of myself as the same as who I was before I knew what gender was. When I was 9 I lost myself, and then I found myself again. The girl I was isnt me, but the little kid I was, that is who I am and this is what he would’ve turned into if he was never forced into a dress

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I respect that perspective. Mine comes very much from my inability to recall with any real details a large part of my life before the age of about 12. Maybe there was a small child that I’m honoring, but I have nothing idea. All I remember was almost getting it at about 13 and then suddenly deciding that I was just messed up in the head before repressing until I was a legal adult.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

From that perspective it’s easy to resent who I was at that age

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 5w

Lost time and the way everybody in my family laments that I can’t be that person anymore

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Gotcha, I'm sorry about your family :/ I've found it extremely helpful to remind myself that I have always done the best I could for myself with what I had. I don’t know if that will help you at all but I hope you can feel more okay with your past as time goes on

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